I actually just found out I was pregnant last night, took 3 ahpt and they were all positive...I also have all of the typical signs of pregnancy. I am 19 years old and half way through my first year of university. I live at home with my quite conservative parents.

Now, I just recently, as in a week and a bit ago, broke up with the father of this baby. We constantly fought, he was verbally abusive, had serious psychological issues and had a drinking problem. I would like to keep this baby, but am having a serious complex over what to do about the father. Do I have any right to not tell him about the baby? But if I didn't...I feel like I would live in fear of him finding out and trying to use that against me. But if I do tell him, that means he can take legal action- and I want him to have nothing to do with this child.

I am also curious as to what to do with my parents. I know my mother will be supportive, but my father nearly had a heart attack when he saw my one inch tattoo on my ankle. He has been battling Leukemia for almost 3 years now and I am so scared this will put him over the edge. What are your experiences wih parents?

Thank you!!

Hello, Im 19, and also a single mother, although I have always had a very good relationship with my kids dad. I really think you need to tell him, I dont know what its like to have someone abuse me, but its his child, and who knows maybe he'll smarten up and want to be a good dad/person. Telling your parents, well your going to need to tell them, theres not really anyway around it, they will notice, if not the growing belly, a baby defiantly will give it away, lol. Im really sorry about your dad, but it may do the total opposite, and make him want to live for his grandbaby! Maybe tell your mom first, and see how she thinks would be a good way to tell him.
Oh and I wanted to say, Im going to University, so dont think its all over, you can totaly do it with a baby!
Good Luck!

Hello,

Been awhile since I have been on here, so here goes. The minute you find out you are pregnant everything in your life becomes about your child. You will agonize over every decision you make because you want to do whats best for your child. It will be extremely hard when your child is around 3 and asks you were daddy is and you can't answer that question because you never told the child's father you were pregnant. With all the problems you are having and the father of the child is having, you owe it to the child to give the father 100% opportunity to clean himself up and be there for the child. If you give him that opportunity and he denies it then know you didn't fail your children in any way.

Continue to go to school, it won't be easy and if your mother is supportive it will be very helpful to you. Trust me, I got a degree with the help of my mother and she sacraficed a lot of her time and energy taking care of my daughter while i went to school, worked and completed a part-time internship. I can't tell you how hard it will be to be a single mother and go to school. Look for all the financial help you can get with daycare, it makes a huge difference. But always recognize the efforts that your family puts forth for you to make this work.

My family is very religious and it wasn't easy for them with me being pregnant and not married or even with the father. My mother was in the delivery room and since that day my daughter and her have always had a special bond and she is the glue that holds our family together.

Good luck to you and should you need any words of wisdom from someone who has been there before just hit me up.