Hello. My little ones are both two years and over the past like two months they have developed an attitude that is absolutely horrid. They are testing my patience left right and center. They are jsut being plain ol' rude! Today I asked Tiana to get a coat on and she was like "I'm going Mooooom." in the snootiest tone. And they say things like 'That guys looks stupid.' or "that lady is an idiot.' I don;t even know where tyey learned these words. I am guessing from friends and peopel on the street passing us by. I have tried everyhtign. I have tried time outs. I have tried taking things away (eg. toys). I have tried doing back.(eg. when they call someone stupid call them stupid.) But nothign si working! Does anyone have any ideas????

Well if they are in Day care and around other children they probably picked it up there. The best advice I would give as a mother and a teacher is to have no reaction at all. If you ignore it eventually they will realize hey mommy isn't yelling at me anymore for saying this and I'm not getting attention and they will stop. My brother 2 1/2 and sister 3 1/2 are in that phase also. Just ignore it. As long as they are not hurting(physically) themselves or anyone else then ignore it.

Shannon

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Originally posted by ConceteAngel:
[qb]Hello. My little ones are both two years and over the past like two months they have developed an attitude that is absolutely horrid. They are testing my patience left right and center. They are jsut being plain ol' rude! Today I asked Tiana to get a coat on and she was like "I'm going Mooooom." in the snootiest tone. And they say things like 'That guys looks stupid.' or "that lady is an idiot.' I don;t even know where tyey learned these words. I am guessing from friends and peopel on the street passing us by. I have tried everyhtign. I have tried time outs. I have tried taking things away (eg. toys). I have tried doing back.(eg. when they call someone stupid call them stupid.) But nothign si working! Does anyone have any ideas????[/qb]

Hi, My 2 year old girl has tantrums and pokes out her tongue when asked to do something or she is being told off.When I tell her off she calls me stupid.Her favourite words at the minute are No,Can't and Won't.It is just a phase of self confidence and to show you they have a good grasp of language

It makes me laugh when we spend 2 years teaching our kids to walk and talk,and their rest of their lives asking them to shut up and sit down.But I wouldn't miss my kids growing for all the money in the world.

Mark

Mark, My Kids are doing the same thing at this point. They stick out their tongue and continue doing what they were doing or jsut don't listen. Today we went for a walk and they both know to hold my hand crossing streets, but instead Braeden took off across the street. I nearly had a heart attack. He didnt listen to me hen I told him to stop and I grabbed for him but by the time I got to him we were on the other side of teh street. How do I get them to listen in important situations. I can ignore some things, but when it is a dangerous thing, how do I get them to listen? Any ideas at all?

WOW ...
I am looking forward to that .
Ian is 21 months now, and afraid of cars, so he's usually holding my hand in those situations. And I have only one child to watch !
Maybe yours are old enough to understand the danger if explained to them ? (I'm sure that was the first thing you tried !) Still, what else can you do than try again ?
If there are any tricks/tips...let me know, I will need them soon.

That is completly normal for a 2 year old. My son was calling everyone names too. It is just something that you have to teach them not to do. Calling them the name back I don't think would be very effective because they think it is ok if you say it. You have to teach them that they hurt people when they say things like that. I agree that you should ignore it or maybe talk to them and tell them that it hurts people when they speak that way. They are old enough to understand when you talk to them. Good luck.

OMG, we finally figued out something that works. Well, it seems to be working so far. My children both love theri television shows. And now the punishment (time out) is they get put on a chair away from TV, computer, and toys where they can't talk or play (although they can play.() usually it faces the wall, jsut depends on where we are. And they have to sit until they can say what they did. And explain why we dont do that. (If they are trying to figure it out too long, we help guide them to the right answer...) And when they tell us they are jsut happy that they are the ones that knew why we dont do things liek that so they dont do it again.
The other day my lil boy was pulling on my leg when I was taking things out of the oven. I asked him to wait in the livingroom until I was done finishing supper. And he didn't and landed in time out. Well when he figured out that we couldnt do that in case mommy dropped everythign and burned him (or herself) he was like "Daddy, I knwo why!!!" and he jsut kept getting all hyped. And now he tells everyone he sees that you dont touch people making supper cuz they could burn you on accident.
Now to get them to clean their room...

Wow! lol I have a 2 year old son also .. He'll be 3 in April.. And I swear I've tried all these things ya'll have talked about.. but nothing seems to work. I've been going from home to home.. he hasnt ever been in a stable home and I think that has a little to do with it if not a lot.. his daddy and I are no longer together.. We havent been together since he was 3 months old.. His daddy is also in the Army in Germany he hasnt seen him since April of this past year.. I dont know what to do. I'm scared to spank him bc I may hurt him. All he does is yell and be distructive.. I get so frusterated and my bf at the moment is being so helpful hes trying to help me understand things but hes afraid to do anything like disicipline him or whatnot and I myself aint even sure if it would be ok even tho sometimes I wish he would bc my sons dad isnt here to be a daddy.. What can I do to make him understand right from wrong and to RESPECT me and othes (like grandparents.. ect..) Any advice is well apreciated !!!

Thanx,
~*Chelle*~