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So harsh. It is never easy. I don't resent my kids because it is not their fault and any child is more important than a bachelors degree or whatever else. If I finished college or not would be my own doing, not the fault of anyone else. I never ever wanted children or to be married etc but life does throw a lot of curve balls. I think what you need is to see a counselor alone or with your family to work out these issues. Because if this is something you desperately want at your age, you probably do have many issues. Instead on focusing on boys, sex, babies etc, try to focus on the goals you want to achieve in life first. Create hobbies or start to work on things that you always wanted to do in life. You really need an adult to guide you in the right direction. I never even went on my first date until I was about 17. You shouldn't have to rush anything. I just hope to veer my sons so they focus on their goals, empthathy, helping other etc rather than worrying about the goofy things in life (sleeping around) at such an age. I hope my post doesn't offend anyone here.
Posts: 8 | Location: USA | Registered: 10 September 2004
Originally posted by butterfly_mami2003: [qb] Im 14 and I want to be pregnant soo bad and not because I want my ex to 'love' me but because even though I know my parents love me I dont have any friends my boyfriend of 8 1/2 months who kinda broke my virginity and my sister(I have 2)cant stand me.All my cousins are either too old or too young to be around and im always alone.I could deal with it before because my bestfriend(my boyfriend)was here with me but know its unbearable so I feel if I had a baby and someone to depend on me and someone that is mine I would have a real purpose in the world and I wouldn't be so lonely. Im I dumb???????? [/qb]
THINK ABOUT THIS. DON'T BE STUPID. Read the posts on the board and what most of us go through. Understand that having a child is not like buying a sweater. You can't just get rid of it once you don't want or need it anymore. I know you feel a bbaby would feel the emptiness and loneliness you are feeling... but it won't. How are you going to take care of this baby? Clothes? food? What can you teach this child? Are you going to finish school? Really give it some thought. Deep thought.
Originally posted by butterfly_mami2003: [qb] Im 14 and I want to be pregnant soo bad and not because I want my ex to 'love' me but because even though I know my parents love me I dont have any friends my boyfriend of 8 1/2 months who kinda broke my virginity and my sister(I have 2)cant stand me.All my cousins are either too old or too young to be around and im always alone.I could deal with it before because my bestfriend(my boyfriend)was here with me but know its unbearable so I feel if I had a baby and someone to depend on me and someone that is mine I would have a real purpose in the world and I wouldn't be so lonely. Im I dumb???????? [/qb]
Posts: 3 | Location: new york | Registered: 19 September 2004
14 years old, lets see, when you are 24 , your child will be 10. At 24 your world will open wide but you won't be able to enjoy it because your child will be in school, they will need shoes, clothes,food, sports equipment and constant attention and more. There goes that trip to europe. there goes that university course you wanted to take. there goes your life! Think of your future girl! And that child's future. At 14, you have all the time in the world to plan your life. Slow down and enjoy it. And whats happening now, won't be happening a year from now. your time for children will come, but you have to much to do with your life right now. Enjoy your youth because the older you get, the faster it passes.
No matter what you see, no matter what you hear, no matter what you read...always always always get a second opinion... and then a third.
Posts: 1796 | Location: a little village in a big world, Canada | Registered: 18 September 2004
I'm not going to say that you are dumb BUT you are going down the worng path. I was 13 when i got pregnant I am 14 now with a 4 month old baby. I LOVE him to death and I would give up everything 4 him all over again but I wish I would have waited. Me and his daddy have been together sinec I was in the 5th grade. his daddy is 2 1/2 yrs older than me and he has always said that he wanted a baby by me. Now that he has one he is in a group home becuase when i was pregant we split up and he messed with a 24 year old well when I was havin my baby she let him take the car to come be there with me, turned out it was her daddys car and he had a warrent on it she had been gone for 4 days well Justin got pulled over the girl had drugs in the car and he got charged with all of them. He gets out in Dec. and has only seen my baby once and has not even been able to hold him yet, but he gets to come home for the weekend and see him. Its hard I go to school take care of my baby and work. I don't have time for friends or to go out or anything else unless i get someone to watch my baby and that is VERY rarely. SO my advice is WAIT.. Its hard Im I dumb???????? [/QB][/QUOTE]
Posts: 2 | Location: GEorgia | Registered: 22 September 2004
I'm not going to say that you are dumb BUT you are going down the worng path. I was 13 when i got pregnant I am 14 now with a 4 month old baby. I LOVE him to death and I would give up everything 4 him all over again but I wish I would have waited. Me and his daddy have been together sinec I was in the 5th grade. his daddy is 2 1/2 yrs older than me and he has always said that he wanted a baby by me. Now that he has one he is in a group home becuase when i was pregant we split up and he messed with a 24 year old well when I was havin my baby she let him take the car to come be there with me, turned out it was her daddys car and he had a warrent on it she had been gone for 4 days well Justin got pulled over the girl had drugs in the car and he got charged with all of them. He gets out in Dec. and has only seen my baby once and has not even been able to hold him yet, but he gets to come home for the weekend and see him. Its hard I go to school take care of my baby and work. I don't have time for friends or to go out or anything else unless i get someone to watch my baby and that is VERY rarely. SO my advice is WAIT.. Its hard Im I dumb???????? [/QB][/QUOTE]
Posts: 2 | Location: GEorgia | Registered: 22 September 2004
Originally posted by butterfly_mami2003: [qb] Im 14 and I want to be pregnant soo bad and not because I want my ex to 'love' me but because even though I know my parents love me I dont have any friends my boyfriend of 8 1/2 months who kinda broke my virginity and my sister(I have 2)cant stand me.All my cousins are either too old or too young to be around and im always alone.I could deal with it before because my bestfriend(my boyfriend)was here with me but know its unbearable so I feel if I had a baby and someone to depend on me and someone that is mine I would have a real purpose in the world and I wouldn't be so lonely. Im I dumb???????? [/qb]
i know what your thinking right now no matter what anyone says you still feel that you want a child. right? well i have looked at all these people who have replyed to your wanting to have a child. but the thing is that most of them are adults now. well i am only 16 and i got pregnant at 13. and i can tell you right now do not get pregnant. when my so came i was still 13 and had no money. my son had no new clothes the were all hand me downs and i was always wondering where his next pack of diapers were going to come from. it not a fun feeling.my son is now 2 and i still don't know where his clothes are coming from cause i dont have a job cause i dont have time to. im still trying to finish school. i can go on for ever about why you shouldn't get pregnant but your still ggoing to feel that you should. so i will leave you with this. if you get pregnant where are you going to get money to pay for a child, how are going to be able to finish school, and what about your life and what are your going to with a child when you want to go out? if you want to talk further my email is babygirl_toke@yahoo.com just think about what i am telling you and the real reason behind your feelings
Posts: 2 | Location: michigan | Registered: 25 September 2004
Originally posted by Sha0408: [qb] I'm not going to say that you are dumb BUT you are going down the worng path. I was 13 when i got pregnant I am 14 now with a 4 month old baby. I LOVE him to death and I would give up everything 4 him all over again but I wish I would have waited. Me and his daddy have been together sinec I was in the 5th grade. his daddy is 2 1/2 yrs older than me and he has always said that he wanted a baby by me. Now that he has one he is in a group home becuase when i was pregant we split up and he messed with a 24 year old well when I was havin my baby she let him take the car to come be there with me, turned out it was her daddys car and he had a warrent on it she had been gone for 4 days well Justin got pulled over the girl had drugs in the car and he got charged with all of them. He gets out in Dec. and has only seen my baby once and has not even been able to hold him yet, but he gets to come home for the weekend and see him. Its hard I go to school take care of my baby and work. I don't have time for friends or to go out or anything else unless i get someone to watch my baby and that is VERY rarely. SO my advice is WAIT.. Its hard Im I dumb???????? [/qb]
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Posts: 2 | Location: chicago | Registered: 07 October 2004
your not dumb or stupid i am well i was and i will tell you why . i am 18 and i have a 1 year old son and i love him with all my heart what you is going through i have all ready been through it my son daddy was locked up before and i waited for him me and him is still working things out between each other and we been together since i was 14 and he was my first and i loved him. we did not have *** until i was 16 but he did not want to use protection. at first i said no becouse i did not want to have a baby but then he talked me into and said " i will pull out and you won't get preganat" and i listen that was stupid . well time passed we continued to have *** and i was workin at popeyes and going to school. i stated geting sick and i could not stand the smell of the chicken. i would puke every day. and i stated getting scared. i told Ron(my baby daddy) that i think that i was preganat . he asked me if i was sure and i told him that i don't know and i should get tested. so he went with me to a preganacy place where they give free test and other things and i got tested and found out that i was preganet. i was so hurt and i felt so dumb and so stupid. my family was so dissappointed in me. they could not beleve that me out of all people got a baby a stright A student. but i was told my self that i would not my baby stop me down for achiving my goals to got to college and being successful in life and so far i have been doing a good job of that . im not in college yet i go to school at chicago job corps and my family helps me with my baby and his dad side of the family helps me with my baby my son is one and i plan on being done with school by the time he makes six i will be nineteen and for days later my son will be two but i don't let the fact that i have a son stop me and that why im not dumb or stupid any more
so you take care of your self you and your baby
Posts: 2 | Location: chicago | Registered: 07 October 2004
ok. please take it from someone who thought the same thing. i am 14 and found out in July that i was 4 weeks pregnat. it is so hard being a teen and pregnat.
Posts: 1 | Location: Ar | Registered: 09 October 2004
hey i no the feeling of wanting to be pregnate im fourteen as well and i am pregnate, its hard the best thing u kan do is wait it out haveing a child is probably the greatest feeling in the world but its hard and a very long stretch but.. if u kan do it the more power to ya gl and hope u think it thro
Posts: 5 | Location: mira mesa | Registered: 16 January 2005
14yo and want a baby because your lonely Hmmmm Well I guess you can if you want to! but when you realize you and baby dont speak the same language, like you speak english ,it speaks AAAAAH your going to be more lonely, well I guess you can always throw it away when your tired of it and buy a talking doll, and put the pain in the *** kid on any hospital doorstep!and your good to go! Thats what most of the 13% of pregnant pre highshool girls will be doing in Ohio! so they can do it all again! Hey a girls gota have fun!
Posts: 32 | Location: CT | Registered: 19 July 2005
Butterfly-if you think its easy take a look at some of the other forums-20, 30, 40 something-we are alot older have college degrees and full time jobs and are or will have a difficult time raising babies as single moms. Even though we are older, we arent able to go out and enjoy the things we used to, so if you think you are lonely now and have no friends, just wait-kids your age are going to want to go out and have fun not sit around even at our age our friends that are single or have no children alienate us. I think youu need to talk with someother teen parents and get the real deal.
Posts: 196 | Location: Attleboro, MA | Registered: 28 July 2005
Originally posted by butterfly_mami2003: [qb] Im 14 and I want to be pregnant soo bad and not because I want my ex to 'love' me but because even though I know my parents love me I dont have any friends my boyfriend of 8 1/2 months who kinda broke my virginity and my sister(I have 2)cant stand me.All my cousins are either too old or too young to be around and im always alone.I could deal with it before because my bestfriend(my boyfriend)was here with me but know its unbearable so I feel if I had a baby and someone to depend on me and someone that is mine I would have a real purpose in the world and I wouldn't be so lonely. Im I dumb???????? [/qb]
Posts: 4 | Location: Sydney | Registered: 09 September 2005
hi I'm 20 I fell pregnant when I was 19 and I now have a great son but I am more lonely now that I have this little baby your whole life has to change you cant just go out with your friends and your only 14 you might be having a dry patch but you will make more friends soon and you havn't even begun to have fun yet and when your little baby crawls for the first time or sits up or does anything you think is amazing you want to share that with someone I have been there for my sons first word his first tooth everything and it makes you feel lonely his dad is still around but he doesn't love me men arn't like that they don't get attached infact I'm not the only one who had a baby with him trust me I have been through some of the hardest times and the hardest labour and I have had to do it all alone.
Posts: 4 | Location: Sydney | Registered: 09 September 2005
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