I just turned 18 back in January... I had triplets when I was 13... My girls are almost five now... I think I'm pregnant again... When I got pregnant with my girls I was in 8th grade. Because I was carrying triplets and had a very difficult pregnancy i had to leave school. After I had them we moved and I started fresh at a new high school. If i didn't miss that year I would be graduating this year, but I'm not. I don't know what to do...

What makes you think youre pregnant again?

Take a test and find out for sure.

There are lots of options available. YOu first need to confirm if you are or are not pregnant. There are schools for pregnant teens. Some schools I think let you work at home but they have deadlines to turn things in. I had a patient a few years ago that did that and was able to finish school before her baby was born. What about home schooling for your last year? Who do you live with, what is your support system? Who takes care of your girls? Getting involved with a provider as soon as you can would help. They should have resources to head you in helpful directions.

i took a test yesterday... it was positive... I'm supposed to be graduating in January 2006, I'm 6 weeks pregnant, due right around the beggining of 2006. My girls and I live alone, we moved out of my mother's house when i was 16. Before my girls started going to school my older sister watched them during the day while i was in school and my mom watched them at night when i was working, now they are in kindergarden full time and my other sister watches them on nights i work. i really want to finish high school, and i would never think of an abortion. I have done it before... I made a doctors appointment with my OBGYN for this week, i guess i'll have more information later...

You can do it, don't you worry. I'm sure it's been done before and it'll be done again. Go to your appointment and ask a thousand questions and if they don't have any assistance to offer ask them for someone that would.

I am a believer in divine intervention, there is a reason for everything that happens in our lives--be it to wake us up to reality or to move us forward on the paths we are walking. Children are such a blessing and they are also such an amazing wake up call. My prayers will be with you.

Oh my gosh!!! I just wrote you a huge, long response and accidently hit the tab key instead of the cap lock and lost everything :badday: Let me see if I can remember what I wrote.

You have a lot on your plate right now and should not have to do it all alone. What about the father of the baby? Is he around? Does he know? Is he involved/supportive. Does you family know? Will they be supportive?

You said you are due around your graduation time. That could be ok?? There may be some options to that. It may not be easy, but do-able. I was pregnant my last 2 years of nursing school. I was due just after I was suppose to take boards for nursing. That was back in the day when you had to sit for 2 long days and take tests. I was a wreck. Didn't know what I would do if I couldn't take boards. I made it. He was born on his due date after boards were done!!

You should write down a list of concerns, and then prioritize them. Work on them one at a time to come up with some sort of plan/solution. You could try talking with your school counselor. Ask them if there are any courses you could take this summer. Your may also try talking with a teacher or two that you will have next semester and see if you can work something out about doing a self study for their class over the summer? There are options, remember that.

Just another thought--I taught HypnoBirthing(R). It is not a crazy thing, and you are not "hypnotized." You put your self into a deep state of relaxation, but are fully aware of what is happening. I believe that the mind is powerful. I used to teach my clients to talk to their body/baby and let them know what they expect of their body/baby throughout the pregnancy/labor and birth. HypnoBirthing does not have to be limited to "birthing" you can use it for all areas in your life. My children like it. I would do a script for my daughter before a track meet to calm her. She would ask for it. There are practitioners all over the country. This course is specific to Marie Mongan's technique and I would look for that. You can go on to HypnoBirthing.com and find a practitioner in your area. Most practitioners work out payment for people who may have difficulty paying. So if this is a good person you find, she'll work with you, so don't worry about that. I used to work at a military facility and now at an alaska native facility, so I could not charge my patients, so they got all the good stuff for free. You have ALOT on your plate and you do not have to go through it alone. At your appt, ask your doctor if there are any services for you: like young families, teen support, etc. You are not alone!!

I know this was a little lengthy and maybe more information than you wanted, but working with women/pregnancy and all that goes with it is my passion. Guess that is why I'm a midwife

So...we will be here for you If you have any questions just let me know. :huggies:

This is just so wierd... I wasn't expecting this now. Not that I was expecting to get pregnant with triplets at 14 or anything...I mean I know that I can do it, but I'm scared. Is that weird? It's not like I'm a first time mother, but thisng are going so good right now. My girls are my world, watching them grow up is just amazing. They are my pride and joy and I wouldn't change things for the world. I'm in school, my girls are almost five and they will be starting kindergarden in the fall, we're all happy and healthy and I love my life. And now this. I'm happy with my girls, it is just the four of us. I thought I was so careful after the first time... This was only the second time I have had *** since conciving my girls over five years ago... Their father obviously isn't in the picture... I haven't told the father of this one yet, I need some time. We have been together for 15 months and he adores my girls, he is like a father to them, so I think he will be there for me, but you never know,,, because that is what happened with the first one... I think my mom is going to be happy,she knows that I am a good mother. I just had to move out of there because my mom got re-married when I was 16 and her husband didn't want us living there. I was ok with it. The only people I have told so far are my sisters who are 21 and 26, I'm the only one with kids so far... I really want to finish high school normally, I am all set to graduate in January, I have enough credits to graduate at the end of this year, but my school won't allow it. I think the scarest thing for me is knowing that I might not be able to go to college like planned. I really want to go to college, I want to be a film major and my goal is to be a producer. How am i supposed to get through college with four kids? I know I really need to see my doctor and ask her what I can do for help and I need to see my councelors at school... But sometimes it feels like they are looking down at me and they think I am bad for the mistakes I have made.

You are not bad and do not let anyone tell you otherwise. It is just too bad what other people think. If they have not walked in your shoes they have no right to judge. You said your mom will be happy and knows that you are a good mother. It is amazing that you had triplets at such a young age and that you are all healthy and happy. That is quite an accomplishment along with finishing high school. You also have goals in mind. You will do it. I have seen many people accomplish their goals after having kids. You need a support system. YOu need to talk with your boyfriend and let him know. Have the two of you ever talked about having kids? How old is he? Does he work? go to school? Do you know his family? It always takes a little time for the shock to settle in and then you take things one day at a time.

I, for one, applaud you for raising 3 girls at such a young age. Obviously, facing another pregnancy and possibly being alone for that is a pretty hefty blow to you, but like MCD said, you will get through it. If you and your BF have been together for 15 months, then possibly he would be more open to having a baby than a new BF would. But you do need to talk to him... he deserves to know. You have goals and please don't forget them. Still continue to work toward them. Sounds like you have some family support, so that's very important. Congrats on a new baby, and hang in there, you will be fine, I can tell. You sound like you have your head on straight, which is very important for your situation. Good luck, and please keep us posted.

My boyfriend is a little older... He's 21... He's not a partier though, which is a plus. He's actually a junior at USC and he is planning on going to Med school. We don't live together, I have my appartment and he has his dorm, but he helps support and raise my girls, I have always said that I think he will make a great dad, and he wants to go into pediatrics too! I try to work as much as possible while still going to school full time and raising my girls. I know that my father isn't going to be ok with my new sitution, but so far my sisters are very excited for me and I am planning on talking to my mom tomorow. Then I'll tell John after I get my motherly advice. And I guess we'll see how it goes from there I guess

I think I'd have a good plan laid out on how you plan on supporting and raising those kids alone before presenting the information to the father. I think the mistake I made when I presented my situation to the Father was that I had no idea which direction I was going to go. I knew I wanted the baby, but then what? Perhaps if you have a decent plan laid out and then tell him you won't sound needy. Show him what he'll be gaining, not what he'd be losing. I know it sounds bad suggesting that you "spoon feed" the pregnancy to him, but in my experience men need to feel that they aren't being asked to give up their lives. They need to feel like they are gaining in the situation.

I really hope that this will all have a happy ending w/regards to the BF. It sounds like even without him you will have a support network, and that is really wonderful.

Well... I talked to my mom on sunday. She was thrilled. She loves her grandkids to death. I'm so glad that she is so supportive of me. Yesterday she took me out for lunch and then we went to my OBGYN appointment. Everything is going great, my due date is January 4, 2006, I'm hoping for a little boy... I told my girls last night that they are going to be big sisters, I dont know if they really have grasped the concept yet... But I think they will be excited. I'm going out with my boyfriend later for dinner and I'm going to tell him the news... Wish me luck!

I'm so happy for you--that your family is so happy about the idea of a new baby!!! Good luck!

I'm really not looking forward to telling my father... If it is anything like the first time...

I need to find a new place to live too... My small two bedroom appartment is already very crowded as is...