hello my names marien im 17 from kirkwood new york and im 5 months pregnent and i have no hope im gonna find my true love now that im pregnent and im only 17..my situtation is very ruff i am pregnent by what i thought was a great guy hes 22 has one kid already and he has a drug and alcohol problem though i loved him very much i thought one night of not using protection wouldnt hurt well 1 month later i find out im pregnent i was crying for days i told my boyfriend the babys father he walked out and left me with a huge resposibility and i am scared my baby wont be normal because when i was 8 weeks i was doing alot of drugs pot,extasy,meth, and i was always drunk i felt like i was finally excepted as a cool person then my world came crashing down..i am very confused on how to handle this big gaping hole in my heart left by my babys father he wants nothing to do with me or our baby i stopped drugs cold turkey no help because i wanted to have this baby it wasnt easy but im 17 and stood up and took resposibility that yes i made a mistake do i regret it no just wished i would of waited though i seem to be depressed my whole life is not good hasnt been since i was born i have never felt loved so i thought i would find me a good man yeah ok...i am very confused i know i can raise this baby by myself just like my mother did but i didnt want my baby to grow up without a father i grew up with hardly a mother and no father i dont want that for my baby..i have looked in adoptions but i dont want to give my baby up i want to raise her then i get realy depressed and no i dont want my baby...i love my babys father thoughs hes long gone...i am 5 months pregnent and alone and scared..i might have to go thru labor by myself because my mother wants to leave state to start her life...i am scared and feel that no one will want to be in a realtionship with me now that i have a baby..does anybody have any advice i am positive i wanna keep the baby..i can afford the baby,i am going back to high school finish my last 2 years i wanna go to a nursing college in syracuse new york..i babysit on a as nedded basis 2 little ones a 2 years old and a 11 month old with special needs my only friends boys thee 11 month old has enspired me to go into peditric nursing to work with kids with special needs like my friends little one cause im good with him...i need help badly i need some advice help me please...thank u soo much

baby girl 17

You shouldn't feel alone sweetie because I have had my share of problems and I'm still going through them. I'm not going to lie to you because boy is it tough to raise a little one on your own, especially if your your a first time mommy. I'm a mother of one beautiful ten month old boy by the name of Tyler and he can be a little pain in the butt! Thats why we have mommy duties because we carry most of the responsibilty. I read a reply that you posted on the topic of "How ignorant?" I replyed back to your comment so, you might want to read what I wrote. It will let you know that your not alone! My story is pretty rough as well because I bearly got out of a abusive relationship not too long ago and I'm still having a hard time picking up the pieces. I have to get myself together not only for myself, but for my little one as well. My husband wants to work things out between him and myself but I have alot of uncertainties. I just want better for my son and myself. I'm glad to hear that you stopped drugs completly but, are you strong enough to stop the drugs after your baby is born? A drug lifestyle is not a healthy enviroment for your growing baby.

It's the best if you don't have your baby's biological father in the picture due to his drug and alcohol problem. That would be a REALLY bad influence on your baby. You defintly don't want your child to pick up on those ugly habits. Drugs are definlty the devils seed! Just remember there are better men out there who have good expectations for themselves. It feels horrible to be alone and to be stuck with the full responsbility of a newborn but, thats were you need to be strong and say to your self "hey, I'm a good person who deserves the best in life for my baby and myself." It sounds stupid but I would always repeat this to myself when I was feeling depressed! I'm still getting through my depression but, it takes strong will power and the love from your child to overcome these tough obstacles. The best advice I can give you is too stay clear from your ex and be the best mommy you possibly can be. Finish highschool and go to college. It will be tough but every morning when you see your baby it will make you want to strive for more because you will want the best for your baby. Good luck and God Bless sweetie!

thank u soo much my mesage has been on here for 4 days u are the first one to respond thank u for ur support and your kindness its greatly appreciated i have another post on domestic violence its more about my situation with my babys father its really bad but this wasnt the place to put my post so i put it on domestic violence..i get up every morning and look to my stomach and say well baby im gonna get up today with a smile cause i know in 4 more months youll be in my arms and i can kiss u for the first time and feed u and admire how beitiful ur gonna be and to tell u the first time that i love u..im not even showing the doctor wants me to gain 35 pounds i hvent been able to eat do to sever nausea they said i have preeclamsia and im a high risk pregnency its hard im only 17 but i know theres hope i cant give up i got a baby to think about now...thank u soo much for your advice....god bless u too....

hey hun...my name is Kristin, and I'm 19 years old. I have a 1 year old, and i'm pregnant with my second child. I know exactly what you're talkin about. my babies father and I married march 2003....and we've just seperated. he has a drug and alchohol problem also. that's why i had to get me and my daughter out of that situation. and you dont have to worry about your child not being healthy. i was just like you....doing the same thing you did...meth, coke, x...but if you stop early in your pregnancy, you should have no problem....my little girl is healthier than anything. anyways...you dont have to feel alone. if you ever need anyone to talk to...you can talk to me b/c i wont judge you, i completely understand your circumstances...i was 17 when i got pregnant for the first time....so write me back!!!

baby girl 17;

Your very much welcome sweetie! I'm more than happy to give anyone advice who needs it. I read your post on domestic violence and I'm really sorry that you have to go through that. No one deserves that kind of treatment! Every night when you go to sleep and every morning when you wake up just pray to God to keep you and your little one safe from danger. God will keep you safe sweetie, just be strong and you will over come all of this! Remember only cowards keep their women scared. You will find a loving man who will respect and cherish you. He's out there, you just have to be patient! Just stay safe and if you can find a support group. Support groups are a great booster upper when your going through a tough time. I also find church groups to be very helpful because they try to help you as much as they can. Stay safe sweetie and I will pray for you.

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Originally posted by mommaKRIS10:
[qb] hey hun...my name is Kristin, and I'm 19 years old. I have a 1 year old, and i'm pregnant with my second child. I know exactly what you're talkin about. my babies father and I married march 2003....and we've just seperated. he has a drug and alchohol problem also. that's why i had to get me and my daughter out of that situation. and you dont have to worry about your child not being healthy. i was just like you....doing the same thing you did...meth, coke, x...but if you stop early in your pregnancy, you should have no problem....my little girl is healthier than anything. anyways...you dont have to feel alone. if you ever need anyone to talk to...you can talk to me b/c i wont judge you, i completely understand your circumstances...i was 17 when i got pregnant for the first time....so write me back!!! [/qb]

thank u soo much i stopped drugs at 3 months and i havent had any prenatal care at all im actually 5 months miscalculated my pregnency i have been taking vitamins but no doctor cause nobody will take my insurance...i have a question is it normal to be getting like contractions every 5 to 10 minutes there like little sharp stabbing pains no bleeding they come and go normal or not mormal...well i hope this will be my last child maybe ill find someone who wants to have anotherchild down the road hmmmm..i just met a really great guy off a dating service hes willing to protect me and the my baby to be with me is all he wants i cryed when he told me that..things are starting to look up....thank u soo much for the support ill keep in contact....

baby girl 17;

Hello sweetie, I'm happy to hear that your road is going smoothly. God has defintly blessed you with a new wonderful guy in your life. If your insurance isn't acceptable to most doctors, try to apply for medicaid. I would definlty address your sharp pains to a physician right away. It's always good to be on the safe side. Keep in touch with your progress!

God Bless Sweetie!

well im not doing good i lost the baby my seizure medicine attacked the babys brain and i had my dnc it was a very depressing day thought i would let u all know..thats made my life much harder cause i just lost the only thing i had though im hanging in there i suppose..well going to bed talk later...