So things seems to be caliming down a bit my ex and I are talking and our baby is due in Jan. We are both excited. Now my concern is that he has a new girlfriend they've been dating for two months or so(before I found out I was pregnant)but have known each other for years. I know I have to meet her everntually but have no care to right now becasue i still love him. The fact that shes going to be around my newborn daughter scares me more than anything. I haven't said anything to my ex about it becasue im avoiding any kind of argument that might come about. We just got on good terms and i dont want to ruin it. Plus i feel like i should be supportive no matter what it means to me. Some people have told me to tell him how i feel and others have sadi know. Im just not sure what to do. Any advice?

It is really hard as you have still got feelings for the father of your baby. If he is going to be in a long term relationship with this girl then it would be better to have some sort of civil relationship with her. The thing is that you can’t change the choices he has made regardless of how hurtful they have been for you. I guess if it was me I would tell him that I found it difficult. But I would also be trying to confront it and meet her given that she was going to be in my child’s life. It is awful because you are at your most vulnerable when you are pregnant and after you first have your baby it makes it the hardest time to have to deal with a broken heart and because you are having a child together you are forced to confront it as you have to see them when they have access.
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Hey, i know its hard to see someone you have feelings for with someone else(or even if u dont anymore, its always hard to see an ex with someone else when your alone). But it seems like you guys are on good terms wich is awsome (tust me, as a young mom the dads support is very important) CHances are this girl will be in your daughters life for a long and important time, so try your hardest to get over it. Tell him how you feel (and if hes a good guy) he'll understand, and maybe introduce her slowly (ie not making out in front of you) and hopefully you'l get to know and trust her, because she will be helping raise your child. Its not fair to you to feel bad, talk to him, im sure he will be able to put some of your fears away.
Good Luck! I know its hard but you'l get thru it

Hey!
I have been in this situation.I had bad thoughts running through my head at first then I realized this is not at all about me.It's about the little one.Have you had the baby yet?There are alot of sacrafices we have to make but sometimes they turn out for the better.You can get through this I did.If you need to talk I'm all ears.

If you guys are on good terms, is it possible to have a sit down and talk about how you want to approach different aspects of parenting when you are not together? Maybe you could set up some ground rules about communication, visits, religious matters, etc... and in with that could maybe be a discussion about introducing significant others into the childs life. I'm sure that he is not going to want you to have a boyfriend around the child without being able to meet him, a length of time you are dating that person, etc.. just a suggestion. I hope it works out for you two to keep things on friendly terms.