I just had a beautifull baby boy a month ago. Because of that I feel like an outcast when it comes to kids my age. I live in a town where i know no one except my boyfriend I haveno one to talk to about the way I feel. I wish I could make friends here but I dont feel like i relate with alot of my peers.

I know exactly how you feel. My daughter was born when I was 14 (I'm 18 now). I lost a lot of friends because we just didn't have anything in common--they were talking about weekend parties while I was working every day after school and on the weekends just to afford diapers.
You can always talk here..there are plenty of people that will listen and give you advice. I'm sure you'll meet new people and make friends in your town. I know how it feels to feel like an outcast but there are plenty of teen parents out there that you can relate to.
If you ever want to talk, feel free to PM me.

Thanks..It feels good to have someone to relate too. I know there alot of people out there in my situation its just the they are hard to find and I'm overall a quiet person. I don't normaly like to be the one to start conversation so it is hard to make friends. I just don't know how to be outgoing enough to make the initiative unless I fell c omfortable in my surounding and here is deffinately not the place. Thanks once again.

No problem.
I'm sure once you get comfortable there, making friends will be easier. It might take time but be patient, and once you're used to your surroundings it'll be natural to open up.

Dominicks mommie,

:welcome:

Mr. Ryan is right. It is all about comfort level. He has proven himself a very smart, mature loving parent around here and we all welcome his input.

Please stick around here. There are many of us of all age groups and experience, that offer and take advice to and from each other. You are welcome to join in, jump in, and enjoy the fun, the laughter, the frustration, and the tears, with all of us single parents.

I know its sounds dumm but i really know how you feel. I had my boy when I was 15 years old, Im turning 20 in August, I was also afraid of the same thing. But I've found that despite of some poeple that may react badly to my situation. there were other people that actually had real respect for me being able to take the responsibility for my actions. I know it may seem imposible right now, but it will get better. its a choice we as single mothers need to make, we mus'nt be ashamed of what we have accomplished. W should be proud...

Here is a article that I posted a month ago that my mother wrote about me on the website woman24.com please take time to read it, I know it will inspire or help you in some way.

Please take time to read the following!

I came across this article that my mother posted to a website called woman24.com. They selected my mom's story out of a few other and made it frontpage article.... Im not the kind of person that likes to brag I want to show this article to the whole world 'cuz I know this is what we all need, we might not allways get the regegnition that we need, but know that that all of you single parents out there deserves it!!!!

please take time to read the followin please

Lindy's* 'Recognition for a young mother'
I wish to tell you about a very special person, who I think needs an award for being brave, graceful and honest.
I admire her for standing up for what she believes, fighting for her child and most of all being a GREAT mum!

I do not wish to mention her name, but I can tell you that I am a young grandmother and that I adore my grandchild and have a lot of respect for my daughter.

My daughter is a 19-year-old Mom, with a 2 1/2 year old son. She fell pregnant when she was in standard 8 (15 years old) and continue her schooling career. She only missed out on approximately 2 1/2 months of school, before returning to school in standard 9.

Ever since the day she fell pregnant, she was determined to keep her unborn baby, even though she was unsure about where she would live or how she would take care of it.

During her pregnancy she went through some traumatic experiences. She experienced the changes in her body and lost most of her friends and also the father of her unborn baby. But still, she was determined to keep going. She was the typical confused pregnant teenager, never really knowing what was lying ahead of her.

She would make scrapbooks; write down thoughts of how she thinks her baby was going to look and also wrote of all her emotions. Seeing the changes she had to go through from being a 15-year-old schoolgirl (wearing a size 33) to a being huge, pregnant woman and also the confusion that she felt about how she would cope in the future really broke my heart into pieces.

But she kept going, not asking for much and being happy with even a small present being given to her.

During this period she had to take a lot of hammering not only from her school but also from outsiders looking down on her. After giving birth in December, she rested for 1 month, after which she continued her school career (after a C-section) and held her head high, talking about a darling son.

This period was an emotional rollercoaster. The baby's father lost his visitation rights. This gave her control over her child's future but also a lot of maternal responsibilities during her school career.

She continued her schooling career and her marks continued to improve. This went on until the end of Matric. During her Matric year she started planning to get a job in order to assist with the financial burden of the baby.

She would never ask for anything more than just the most necessary items and would always be thankful and take pride in her child. She would take photos of her son, enter him into baby competitions.

What was most amazing to me, is her ongoing determination during these years. No matter what happened, and believe me there were trials, she continued to help and emotionally support the people around her.

She has been through a lot. She is learning to be a mother, learning how to discipline her son, but has always given her son so much love. And when you see her son, he is always smiling and happy.

In 2004 she finished her Matric year and during January 2005, she began working. She has since gained a lot of career experience, and has applied for a second job, which she was successful in doing. She is starting a new career in one of South Africa's biggest banking Institutions.

She is a strong, well-balanced, kind and sensitive woman, who is sensitive to others, supportive and also determined to get ahead in life no matter what has happened.

She has spoken in front of others, telling them about her beliefs and told them that they should always to look forward and keep going. She always makes sure that her son is part of our life and we love him dearly.

She gives only the best to her child and has kept her eyes up and kept her faith and also stimulates her child daily. She is always making sure he only gets the best, although she is just a teenage mother. She has a combination of determination, strength and sensitivity. She is so well-mannered and loving and is an example to even older mothers.

Although she has made her mistakes, she has that same maturity of older mothers and keeps striving to give her child only the best.

Lindy*
* name has been changed

That is awesome.iT IS WONDERFUL TO SEE support and love thank you for sharing I needed that today.

i'm in the same situation as you. my lil girl is 8 months old though. alot of the people my age aren't really the kind of people i like to hang woth so i'm makes it hard. i'm not into partying and all that (i live in aus so now that i'm 19 i can go out to clubs) and all the people i know my age are into that. i find only other parents my age are the ones i can relate to.

Hello there even though i am not at the legal drinking age i understand because here in wyoming that is all there is to do for people my age. and i am definately nbot into that at all! My son needs me and needs someone to set a good example for him and i am going to do that

I can also say that I know how you feel. I'm a mom of two incredible children, Hannah who I had when I was 16 (she's now 3) and Finley who's almost 8 months old. I'm now 19 and I just finally finished high school, I'm starting college in September and I work two jobs to support my family.

Like they say on those Johnson & Johnson comercials, "having a baby changes everything". It is very difficult to stay a teenager and raise a child, because you always have someone else to think about, but at the same time being a mom is the most rewarding thing of all. It will take some time, but eventually things will calm down and you'll meet other people in your same situation. One of the great things is the fact that you will find out who your true friends are, because they're the ones that will stick by your side no matter what.

There are so many temptations out there, expecially being at the ages we are. But you can't let those tempations get you and ou can't succumb to peer pressure. But I'm not saying that you have to stop living your life either. There needs to be a balance. If you live like a hermit and don't ever get out of do anything you'll go nuts!!! I'm not into the drinking or drug scene at all (thats what got me into this situation when i was 15) but I'm all for girls night out.

I guess what I'm really trying to say is that eventually things will all work out and you'll meet the people that are right for you. As you get a little older and your children get older it will get easier. Just remember that you need a sense of balance in your life. I know you are devoted to being a mother to your little boy, and I applaud you for that, but make sure you live a little as well, because if you don't then you'll tire yourself too quickly and that would be bad for both of you. So go and have a little fun, just be smart.

man, i'm 19 and about to have my baby in five more weeks... there are lots of mothers that are the same age as me, but even still i don't feel like i can relate to them... here, even the young moms are immature. they worried about partying, and guys... i'm worried about my education and suporting her. it's nuts, but it's like everyone i used to be cool with i don't bother with any more... and now i got complete strangers helping me out...and they're all grown adults. it seems like i'm the only one that doesn't want to marry and settle down yet. i still want to go to school and get far... but there seemingly are very few that share the same dreams as i do.