Hi everyone, my name is Jill and I am 19, and have an amazing 3 month old baby boy, Owen. I am currently finishing nursing school, and I still work on the side, (a little bit anyway) training some horses. Even though Owen was not planned, I do not want to say he was an "accident" because he is by far the best part of my life . I have amazing support at home both from my parents and my entire extended family. I am also part of a group called healthy families that is for any parents 21 years or younger with children that are 3 and under (or pregnant) so that is great (any young parents intersted in the group let me know its amazing, they have playgroups, seminars and classes...all free)
Unfortunately my sons father (who I dated for about 3 years) is not the nicest guy in the world anymore, he is actually very mean to me, and Im not sure what to do becuase I would love for Owen to know his father and love his father but I also dont know if that is the best idea due to the fact that his father is no longer a good influence, (any ideas??) but I am not one to hate or wish bad things upon people so thats all that is needed to say about Owens father.

So yea..I'm loving parenthood, although school is a little more difficult but I doing my best.

Nice to meet all of you.

first of all :welcome:

it is amazing how much your life is similar to mine. I totally agree with you. My daughter was not planned, but she surely was not accident or mistake. and I also agree that healthy families is awesome. My ex is not the nicest guy either. I am also struggling to finish school, but my family is really supportive, so that makes it a little easier.

well, I just wanted to welcome you and if you ever need to talk, I'm here. this place is full of really great and amazing people.

Thank you so much

youre welcome!

Came across your post and thought I would put in my two cents about the father situation. My advice is if he is not a good influence and you know he is not than don't push it. If the father is ready for a relationship with his child than he will initiate it, it's not your job to push him to.

I agree, if a parent doesn't want to be in a child's life, pushing them will only cause problems specially later. There was a post in Mid January on this that a little girl cries a lot now because she expects her father to call or show up for visitation. She was forced on him and he would sometimes show up, sometimes wouldn't bother. What is best is that you love your child and raise him to the best of your ability. When Owen is old enough, tell him the truth (like my mother did to my brother and me) and let him decide if he wants to know his father when he is old enough. Forcing him on his father will cause more problems for you as a mother you don't want to deal with, nightly crying, having to explain his father's actions when you don't understand them yourself, etc...

If he has an ounce of decentcy in him, he will one day regret his decision. But it is his loss, obviously he has all he really needs in his mother so don't lose heart and continue being a good mother!