Hey everyone,
I'm new to this so work with me please. I just turned 15 and last week I found out I was preganet. I'm not to scared to have the baby. I'm more scared to tell my parents. I'm scared of what there reactions will be. I don't think I can deal with hurting my dad i'm supposed to be his little baby. But instead i'm having a baby of my own. I'm also scared to tell the father cause i'm scared of what he will say. Please if you have any advice please help!!!!!!!!!

Just remember that the longer you wait, the worse it will be.
Your parents can surprise you with the support you really need. Remember, they are your parents, they love you no matter what. They will never NOT love you because you got yourself pregnant. They may be dissappointed, but that does NOT mean they dont love you. You will be surprised.
As for the father, he might be there and he might not. Dont expect him to be there for you. That way if he is, it will be nice for you, but if he isn't, you wont be surprised. This is your baby. Its time to grow up very fast. And the first part of growing up, is to be able to speak to your parents.
Good luck! Its not the end of the world. Its just the beginning!

Please sit down and think about this. This is a very big step. Becoming a parent is not kids play. I know you did a very grown up thing when you had sex, but are you really ready to be a mother. Are you mature enough mentally. At 15 the father is probley young also. You have to think about the future. Do you think in 5 or 6 years he will be there for you. I was grown when I had my first child and married. Guess what 12 years later I am going through a divorce. I was 23 when i had my son. I am not for abortion. But you need to hurry and sit down with your parents and see could this be an option. You have so much ahead of you. You need to stop having sex and start foucusing on school. Join some school functions. Theres alot to do besides messing your life up getting pregnat at 15. You need to go to your mother and really sit down and think. How are your grades? focsus on them. You don't want to bring a child in the world and you can't even support it. It is going to be hard enough raising a child all by yourself. But when you have no skills that is really going to be hard for you and now another person. Plus, if you and the father aren't going to be together guess what? It is going to be really hard to find a man that will except that baby. And you don't need that. My children are by one man. I have girl friends that are grown with good jobs that have kids and are now divorced. And they can't find a real man that wants to be with them as a family. They feel like the kids are just over whelming. My heart goes out to you. You are going to have to make the right choices from this point on. You need to stop having sex. That is not what you should be thinking about right now. Just say No. Although it looks like this is the end. It is not. Please talk to your parents at once. As for the baby's dad. You should just tell him. Don't be afraid to tell him when he had un protected sex he knew the chances of having a baby where there.

Yes parenting is the hardest thing and most rewarding. Yes you shouldve been playing barbie dolls or soemthing instead of having sex, but you did and now you have to deal with the consequences. PLEASE talk to your parents, they will be pist, and upset and very disappointed but they will help you im sure. And if your not ready just yet, which i doubt, if your not ready please consider ADOPTION not abortion.Some agencies help you watch your child grow, and be part of their lives through specfic guidelines.Theres so many different kinds and so many loving families out there, please consider. If you do decide to stick it through, hang in there, if anything you have support here. ANd itll be the hardest job but have faith in yourself. As for babies driving guys away, some of them leave others stay.My little sisters Gf had a baby last nov, she was 15. The dad is sorta in their lives but she does have a BF who seems to really love them. SO everyone situation is different. But remember, You will be completely responsible for this child. Getting up at 3 in the morn for feedings, staying up all night with a teething baby, Having to buy diapers and wipies, formula etc etc. ALOT comes with having a child, and its not all cake and cookies as its protrayed on tv.No matter what,you have support here, just think LONG AND HARD!!!

Hey girl! I was 17 when I got pregnant and I was VERY afraid to tell my mom and the father of the child. The best thing I did was tell my mom! She was there for me through it all...much more than the father of my child has ever been. I waited six months to tell my mom and I could 'cause I didn't show until after then. But really it's the best thing for you and the baby to tell your parents and seek prenatal care and all. You don't have to have an abortion, you don't have to keep the baby if you don't feel ready, there is always adoption, which is so much better than abortion. Or keep the baby if you think you are ready and willing to do this. DO NOT quit school, I know it's hard to go to school pregnant and finish and do the work. I got pregnant the end of my junior year of highschool and I stayed at school and now i go to college. It's hard but so worth it. The father probably will not be around so don't expect it. I wish you the best of luck. Keep in touch and if you ever need anything just email me here. I went through it alone for six months and I don't ever want anyone to have to do that! Hope to hear from you!
Melissa

this is off subject but F8THnHOPE how is going to school working and takin care of the baby working out. I would have sent you a private message but I don't know how.

i got pregnant when i was 15 too. i know it's hard to tell your parents but for your health and the health of your unborn child you need to tell them so that you can go to a doctor.
good luck!
tasha

thisangel:
that sounds kinda crappy. we're here to support each other, even when our views are not the same, and frankly, i go to school, work, and parent too. it is possible.
tasha

hey!! i got pregnant when i was 14 and the babys daddy was 16.. i waited 6 months to tell my parents and it was the worst mistake ever.. you need to go ahead and tell your parents... it is very hard but it is possible.i get up at 5 get ready for school go to school until 3 come home spend the evening raising my daughter and put her to bed about 10 go to work until 1 and try to get my homework done.. its very hard but i would not give her up for anything in this world.. me and her daddy are still together but you are the one that the responsiblity is going to be all on i am now 16 with a 18 month and her daddy is great.. just remember ... you can email me at skylarjadesmommie@ yahoo.com

believe me it is possible..

thisangle::\i agree wil tasha this is supposed to be a support group not a put down plus you are 23 and you have not been in our steps so you need to quit putting us down..

sorry thisangle the message was supposed to go to angelsmommy... sorry....

the message that was for angelsmommmy is also for sandy b

I was not putting anyone down. I want her to know this is the real world. And I don't want anyone to go through the things that I have gone through. Or that I have seen others go through. And that is what you should be doing. That is not putting her down. We all make mistakes. There is no reason we have to have a pitty party for making them. When you make a mistake you get up and dust yourself off. And you move and do things better. That is what I am saying. Now if someone out there did not understand my message maybe they have the problem.I also even try to give advise on how to go about getting help when a person needs it. So, don't give me that.

hey sandy

i regards to your comments and replies. I totally agree with you. I understand that abortion is an option but believe me i will never regret the great sacrifises i have done for my life. having a child at 16 was devastating for myself and family. One thing that i learned no matter how hard we fall in life our family will and parents will always be there to support our decisions. Now that my child is 3 yrs. old i would never change him for anything. he has been my inspiration and motivation to keep trying. Reaching to God and prayer has enabled me to be a strong minded person. With the help of my family, God, and childs life i was able to graduate from high school. go to a private college. tuition was all payed for because i had a dependent and becuase i had excellent grades. next school year will be my third year in college. almost done. believe me you dont know how much i thank my family, friends, child for being so supporting and understanding my point of views. Sandy you are a great role model and i admire your thoughts and comments. because of people like you, stright out people, we young girl can take the advise and be a stronger individual. it is greatly appreciated.

as for you sad girl do what you think is the best thing to do. Nobody can tell you what to feel because at the end of it all you are the soleparent that will have to be a full-time mother. If you have good grades and think you can support this child have it. I am not for abortion but adoption may be an option. talk to your parents that is where you should start. after that start to plan what and where you will head. wish you the best of luck!

If you ever feel lonely you can e-mail me at ojorozco01@aol.com

Thank you jorozco for your message. And you are the role model. A teen mother that beat the odds. And I am sure you had a tough time of it. (but you made it through) although if you had a younger sister you would not want her to go through the things you have been through. You are a inspirations for young and older women. Just stay strong and good things will come to you. We generate off of postive and being true to our selves. I am a firm believer of that. We must stay true to our selves at all times. We can not settle for less. I will e-mail you @ your address later today.... Good Luck with what ever decide. I hope your family will be there for you. If not and you want to keep your baby there are homes out there for teen mothers. It is like a college dorm. They will teach you skills on how to prepare for the baby. And just get you ready for the real world. And they will even help you to go to college if you are interested. If you have good grades look into taking some college courses now. (That would really help) The more help you have the stronger you will be.They will also help out with chid care. Those are just a few options. There are so many. Just take it one day at a time. and for the most part talk to the Lord and he will stand by you in all your times of need.

Sandy B,
I do not think that any of us are here to put each other down or to start problems with others. We are all here to support each other and share our stories...to find a shoulder (via email) to cry on when we need one and to find someone to brag to when we get the chance. Your negativity towards others thoughts does not help sadgirl....and what she was asking for was help. No one directly put you down....we all have different views. I am NOT for abortion and I am a firm believer that if someone gets pregnant they need to suffer the consequnces of going through the pregnancy and then either deciding what is best for the child. Adoption or taking care of the child on her own. The child should not be punished. Anway...that was for you too Sadgirl..the part about abortion and what I think about it. Best of luck Sadgirl and if you need anything just send me a message. Hope all is well and God bless.

Sad girl
If you read a few of the postings, you'll see that even the older more established mothers 'are afraid' about things, we all are at some time or another. You have to tell someone, my father reacted to my pregnancy the same way as I will if my daughter came home pregnant as a teen - your dad will go through the list of emotions but in the end he will be there for you no matter what you decide, don't worry to much these situations are a fact of life and as a parent of a 17 year old I can say we parents know the risks and we do understand more that you know, I have seen some hard fast unforgiving, stubborn fathers melt to jelly once they hold there granchild, when you tell him respect that he will be upset, don't get angry even if he does. As for your boy friend he in the same boat as you, this is not something you did all by yourself. You need to do what is right for you, whether you decide to have an abortion, adoption or keep your child is your decision do not be swayed by other peoples opinions (and they will have them once you tell them of the baby) it is your body and your life and as much as it is a big decision it is 'yours' and only you can make it.
Decide what you want before you speak out and stick to your decision, do not let good doers try to persuade you one way or the other.

For anyone that wants to jump in about abortion issues - please keep them to your self, this is a young girl and she must do what is right for her, whilst I respect your views, we are not 15 and we are here to offer support not judgements. Statistically each sexually active women, during childbaring years will self abort an average of 8 times without even knowing they were pregnant - so please without trying to offend anyone (although I know I will)do not preach God and rights of the child to others, abortion is a fact of nature.

Sad girl we are here to help if we can,let us know how you got on.