hey yesterday i found out that im pregnent and i dont on how to tell my mother or the babies father. i know that the father will take responsibility because thats the way he is but my mom is a diffrent story please help me find away to tell her

Chrissie--

Best way to do it is to 'just do it'...You are pregnant, now is the time to be mature about the situation with everyone. I don't know your circumstances, but it doesnt really matter. You might as well as tell your mother now, because eventually she is going to find out. You can't control how she acts/reacts, but you can control how you act. And if you act mature about the situtation, chances are your mother will find it easier to cope with the pregnancy.

BTW, I know how it feels. I was 17 when I got pregnant with my oldest son. The father did not want to tell his mother, in fear that she would look down on us. Well, we didnt tell her. Ever. She ran into me at the mall 2 days before I delivered. She was devasted. Not because I was pregnant, but because she had missed out my pregnancy. When it came time for my second pregnancy, she was the first person I told. And the baby was not even her sons baby. SHe was there all the way through my pregnancy and even was in the room for the C-Section.

With Love, Stephanee

Have faith, even if is blind!

My WORST mistake was not telling my mom. Stephanee is right. The best way to tell her is to just tell her. I didn't even have to get the words out. I just said mom there is something I need to tell you.... She went "Your pregnant!" it was kind of weird actually. =) My mom was the one who supported me through my whole pregnancy. Don't worry, tell her the news, after the shock hopefully she'll see that this child is a gift.... Keep in touch and I'm here for you if you ever need to talk!
Melissa

I got pregnant with my oldest son Nasir when I was 15 yrs. old. I hid my pregnancy from my mother as well as my family for 6 months. I think it's in your best interested as well as your baby's to tell your Mom ASAP. All I can say is be prepared to hear things you never thought you'd hear your Mom say! Since you've made up your mind to keep this baby there's honestly nothing she can do, but either accept it or, disagree with it; but whether she like it or not she's going to be a Grandmother! I'm praying that everything goes well for you in telling the BIG news. Let us know how everything goes, and if you ever need to talk about anything...I'm here for you. I'm 20 with 3 kids so I can relate to you a little more than some of the other mother's online!

I actually emailed my dad to tell him, but considering I was 6,000 miles away at the time, it was a bit different to you. But yeah, if you show that you're mature by being honest with your family then things will always turn out better in the end.

Let us know what happened!

How many monthes along are you, im 16 almost 17 and im prego and im scared to tell my family my x boyfriend has taken responsabuility but im afraid of what life is going to be like with a baby and alone tell me whats going on with you i need insite

I know its not easy but it will be okay I remember the day I told my mom she cried and didnt talk to me for days But now every things okay my family is so excited. And about the babies father just tell him I couldnt get my self to tell him so I got my best friend also his cousin to tell him big mistake at first he took it okay and said he would be there but then he just dissapered out of my life dont ever trust anyone. I trusted him too much to alow myself to get pregnet by him at the age of 15 and now im seven months and all alone ( i still have my family of course) well let me know how things go

Love SAD GIRL

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[qb]hey yesterday i found out that im pregnent and i dont on how to tell my mother or the babies father. i know that the father will take responsibility because thats the way he is but my mom is a diffrent story please help me find away to tell her[/qb]

I chose not to tell my dad due to him abusing me until I got taken away from him at 12. I got pregnant on my 16th b-day, ect ect, then one day when my daughter was 3 months old, i got a call from my dad. Turns out my sis said "someone had a baby" (she did 11 days after me, & was going to break the news) My dad said "Justina had a baby?" My sis was like YEA, but I DID, TOO!
ne WAYZ, I have an absolutely wonderful relationship with my past abusive father. He has changed by the grace of God, due to my daughter. My stepmom tells me only to let them know sooner when I get prego again. I'd suggest the same. Be prepaired for the possibility of negative reactions. There is nothing you can change. They will have to 'deal' with it.