Hi. im Traci. Im 18. I have been with my bf since july of 2004 and soon after that we found out that i was pregnant. before we found out he treated me like a queen. We spent almost all of our free time together. We decided i would go to my first semester of school. During that time things went down hill. In September we found out i had a misscarriage. Since then things have been up and down. Recently he broke up with me. Well about a week ago i found out i was prego. Since he wont even give me the time of day barely he wont take the time to watch me take a test so that he will believe me. and also he says that its not his. He claims that it is his best friends baby. I know that it is my ex-bfs kid and i wish he would just straighten up. He is into some drugs and always seems to be partying or sleeping or working. I just want him to be here for this kid. Thanks for listening cant wait to meet u all

Well, if he's doing drugs and partying I'd say for the time being just take care of yourself and your baby and get through any schooling you have in front of you that you can, now. You have enough to think about without him around. Do you really want to be with somebody that is more interested in partying?

Once the baby is born you can do a paternity test. You can move forward from there as he will have no choice but to face it. Do you have support from parents? Friends/Family?

my family is supportive but my close friends are friends with him and have known him longer than me so they pretty much take his side

I know what that is all about angel. In fact I was just talking about it on another friend. My friends were all my ex's friends and they all knew him much longer than they knew me so when we split I had to really sever ties with everyone. That's really why I joined this group to begin with, to hopefully make some new friends. I have to say in to short time I'm been a member I've gained many more valuable friends than I ever had before.

angel,

Welcome to the site. I can not say I know what you are going thru, but I do hope things get better for you. Sometimes, we have to let go of what we want - to take care of our responsibilities.

I agree that you should put your focus on school and your baby. You can have a paternity test taken, and your ex will have to - at the very least - take some financial responsibility for the baby.

If your friends are his friends, and they are taking his side ... I think it's time to back off - and make some new friends.

Give it time... often, things work out as time goes by.

Hugssss & good luck. I know there are other young mom's on this site, and I'm sure you can gain some excellent advice - as well as the much needed support to get you thru this tough time.

trust me, as long as your family is supportive... you dont need your ex. Especially if he is doing drugs... and as far as i know, drug addicts arent the most reliable people.

i was in the same boat you are in now. the mutual friends between my ex and i thought my ex was an angel, while i was a ****. you just have to ignore your "friends" and make new ones.

and as long as you have your families support, you can continue school and you can raise your baby. i am 18 with a 2 month old daughter. i am a full time college student, starting my second semester. as long as you are focused, you can do whatever you set your mind to.

good luck and take care!

well last night some things changed. he called me from where he was camping and told me that he wanted to see me so that we could talk. so i drove there and we spent the night together talking and laughing and just getting along. when we woke up this morning he cooked me breakfast even though i was sorta having that morning sickness feeling. then he went swimming for a few minutes and we leasurely packed up camp and he drove home. i hope that he realises that i care about him and that he should be there for his kid.

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i hope that he realises that i care about him and that he should be there for his kid.

Me too, angelinthesky ... good luck!

UGH i hate men. i woke up at 5:30 wanting to throw up and decided to call the babys father and tell him to have a good day since he is normally on his way to work at that time. And what does he do. HANG UP ON ME. UGH so i just called and told him not to call me anymore and that i would see him in 9 months

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[qb] UGH i hate men. i woke up at 5:30 wanting to throw up and decided to call the babys father and tell him to have a good day since he is normally on his way to work at that time. And what does he do. HANG UP ON ME. UGH so i just called and told him not to call me anymore and that i would see him in 9 months [/qb]

I know you don't mean it when you say you hate men. You are going thru a lot right now, and it's not easy to do it alone. Don't let one man make you bitter to all men.

Hugssssssssssssssssssss ... it will get better. Just wait till the baby starts kicking you in the bladder - that's the fun part!

he just makes me sooo mad. he thinks that he can get away with just being with me when he wants to. i asked him yesterday when i picked him up from his friends house cuz he couldnt find his mom who was supposed to pick him up. i asked him if he could look at my car because it was making a wierd noise and he said not that day cuz he was tired and just wanted to lay down so i asked him if he could do it today and he said he would see. so i asked him to call me early and let me know and he never called so i finally got in touch with him at 2:15 and he said no that he has to go back to work this evening. so i said ok bye and hung up. so i just tried to call him to get his friends # so his friend could maybe look at it cuz i dont have alot of money and now he wont answer the phone.

How old is this guy again? Lemme guess 18, 19 something like that.

20

your ex is just as bad as mine.

it's frustrating how they're around when there is ***... but when they have to pay for the consequences of having ***, they ditch you. it just sucks how they have the option to do so, unlike us [even though it would be great if men could carry babies!].

I hope things get better with your ex. for your sake and the baby's. good luck & take care.

angel, even at our age we are going through the same things you are, id like to say it will change and i hope it does for you but you need to make plans on being a single mom and getting him to be financially responsible for this baby.