do yall think i will be able to find a man that is willing to take care of another mans kid

yes

If someone truly cares for you it won't be an issue

Yes, Angel you can. If you really liked someone would you have a problem if he already had a child? I know lots of guys who cannot have children for different reasons but really wanted them so they were particularly attracted to single moms and the women had the bonus of knowing that they really wanted kids to begin with so it took many fears away.

I would suggest though that you look at a person carefully before dating. Look at them and ask yourself is this guy "dad" material. If not then don't open yourself up for disapointment.

Angel, just look at my case... My boyfriend Chris isn't the biological father of my girls, yet he is still their dad, no matter what. I met him when I was pregnant and we started dating when the girls were infants. He has been their father since the beggining. You'll find someone, it just can take some time.

hey chick, im new hear, im in the exact same possition as u but my baby father has got a girl friend and he doesnt want he 2 find out bout his lil secret wid me the selfish *******. he kept sayin that he was gunna b there n support me n his child and then the next day he wud say hes not ready and i planned it..yea right if i was plannin it then i wud of found a man to do the role not no amiture. anyway this was up til i was 4 months n he also didnt want his parents to find out so i wrote them a letter telling them eveything- i had neva met them b4 so i no they got a shock..now iv only got 16days left he is still wid his girl and his parents are really looking forward to the birth, many days i think oh my gosh i cud just kill myself n then i think bout the baby growin inside me and how if i did kill myself he might just think in his mind 'thank god thats over' and i dont wana give him da satisfaction

well i start my job tomorrow wish me luck

well, Ive been a mom for two and a half years now, Im 19, at the moment the father of the child has nothing to do with him, all though I would like him to help me financially, Im not gonna ask him. He has turnde out to use drugs and his drinking non stop.

Im not the kind of person that likes to judge others, but I've learned my boy certain values and rules. He is a happy and beautifull boy, he dont need his father at this stage.

His father is not the kind of father that I want for my boy.....Its not the kind of life I want for my boy!

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Originally posted by angelinthesky:
[qb] well i start my job tomorrow wish me luck [/qb]

Good luck on the job.

Did you tell your parents yet? Why or Why not? If you have not, waiting longer will only make things harder.

As for the guy, doesn't sound like he is ready for the responsiblity. That's usually what gets guys running, they like to play but don't want the responsibility. He knows the situation, but it is time for you to set your boundaries, don't let him have his way with you, just poppin in and out. What can he possibly offer you right now if he is not interested in the baby? If he did have the right intentions, you would be able to see it in his actions. You have the ability to use better judgment, and you seem like a very bright girl. Stop doubting yourself and don't be afraid, because whether he is in your life or not, you and baby will be taken care of.

I have 3 children and trust me, plenty of men still to this day try to get with me and even want to marry me, but after all the stuff i've been through, i have raised my standards and a man has got to prove himself before walking through my front door.

Self-love is more important. drop that zero.

Well things with the job are going good. i really like it and i get bennifits. no i havent told my parents yet because they are out of town right now. and im scared. me and the guy are still fighting but im just not worring about it. how is everyone else