They're all pulling me in every direction.. Naturally ok, my 9 month old needs me, can't do much, but i got the 4year old going through the identity crisis, he doesn't know if he wants to be a big boy or the baby, then I got my 13yr. old thinking he is suppose to run the house! ok, well, he's chilld out, cuz a sista had to put him on notice, but on the real, they all fight for my attention. I have to divide my time between all of them individually and then do things together as a group, been reinforcing this love thing and team work thing and man, some days I am just worn out..

I need a day where I don't hear the "M" word!!! (m=mommy)

Any suggestions, any advice? I sure wish I could find other single parents that are into community so that I would have someone to work with..

Signed CooCoo in Atlanta

I think I might be able to relate to that one. Sometimes I get to the point where the M word just hurts my ears. I really try to spend a few minutes with them when they go to bed and talk about the day. It seems to help.
I hope it gets better for you. The only thing I know to say is if you could get a sitter for few hours so you can relax and not her the M.

not sure but I hear you loud and clear. Different here they are all pretty much the same age although the oldest is sure she runs the house and I'm sure the younger two are sure they do too. The oldest stood no chance to two and they are grouped together and wanting to be individuals, until you let them and they cry for one another or get mad at me if one is being disciplined. We can't go out without somebody asking if they are triplets every 2 minutes, which infuriates all 4 of us.

Sometimes I ask them exactly how long they can go without saying the M word and of course, without killing one another doing so!

I sit here at night in silence, rarely turning the t.v. on. It is too beautiful a thing -- although when my ex does take them the silence ends up actually painful. So, yup, looney bin material here too!

I have a simular problem, my 13 year old trys to act like my 17year olds mom. Sometimes I wonder if they fight just so I will step in. The sad part is the stuff they fight about is so small on the scale of lifes troubles, I wonder why their even talking about it.

lol, I think I am lucky though they don't use the "M" word on me though(jk).

Any way that you can make arrangements to get a little break?

It's difficult when you have no 'me time.' My little ones are 2 and 5. They both want constant attention and only play together a little. The rest of the time, they are picking at each other. I feel bad when I'm out of the living room for 5 minutes or making dinner because they are suddenly picking at each other.

Try to find some time out! You will feel much better...