My son is susposed to go to CA tomorrow. He can't miss school. My mom is flying down from Las Vegas with him. My X and his dad will pick him up from the airport and bring him to his Aunt and Uncle. It is my X's weekend, but I do not have to let him leave the state. It is my nephew's birthday, so I decided to let him go. My X has to have supervised visitation, that's why he is staying with his Aunt and Uncle.

My son keeps changing his mind. One moment he wants to go, the next he wants to stay. I dont know if I should make him go. He will have a blast. Unfortanetly, I can't go with him. Work and studying interferes. I know if I don't make him go, I'll have huge fight with my X. Then I have my mom weighing on it all. She hates my X, so she thinks she is objective, but she is not.

My son made the decision this morning that he is going. I told him it was up to him, but he did not have to go. I told him he needs to make a decision and keep it. He said he wants to go. But I know he will change his mind. What do I do?

I am constantly second guessing myself. I think I do the right thing most of the time. All I want is to foster the best relationship with my son and his dad under the worst circumstances. His dad is a recovering drug addict who doesn't work. He is not a good role model, but it is his father. As long as he doesn't emotionally or physically hurt his son, I think the relationship should be a top priority. I am so confused.

I think I would let him go. Kids will change their minds constantly about things. That's why they need us to make the decisions for them. You have to step in and be the parent. If you feel that he will have a great time, and will be safe with the Aunt and Uncle, plus, he's being escorted by your mom, make the decision to let him go. Don't allow him to change his mind. He needs an adult to make this decision. If he didn't want to go at all, that's a different story.

Thank you!!!! I was just to have an emotional break down. You are right. He is only 5 and I have to make the decision for him.

I agree.