My son's dad came over today after 3 weeks of not seeing the baby. He informed me that he doesn't want to have to take the bus to see the baby anymore( he doesn't own a car), so he's only going to come over on Sundays, when his uncle can give him a ride over, until he finds a night job and saves up for a car.(We live 25-30 minutes away from eachother) He plans to just spend about an hour with the baby when he's over. At this point, I don't think my 6 month old son even knows him, because he's not very consistent with his visits, and usually stays less than 45 minutes up to this point. Is an hour a week (if he actually shows up) with a baby enough for the baby to even bond with him? Will the courts ( if it comes to that) look at this as a lack of proper interest on his part, or will they look at it as consistency ( if he is in fact consistent)?

There really isn't any thing you can do about that, if thats all he will do. Don't give him a reason to say to you "I don't see my son because of you" Let the reason be his. The baby will learn to become familiar with him. He sounds like he's trying to pull himself away but feels guilty about it. Just sit tight and let him in when hes in, it won't hurt your baby. If there is no harm don't worry about it cuz there isn't one thing you can do and you have to let the guilt be his own.

at this point you really have no choice he only is able to come on that day. But look at it this way 1 hour a week is better than nothing and at least he is trying even if it is only one day aweek. He could have just said I can't come period. He is making the effort. My daughter has never met her biological father and she is 15months old. But I can say this, the guy she calls daddy only saw her maybe an hour to an hour and half every week when she was little and she calls him daddy. Also if you keep reenforcing that this is your son's daddy then trust me your son will bond with him. Maybe have your son's father read some books on tape or make a video of him doing songs and nursery rhymes. It may not be the actual thing but it will make your son know who he is and feel comfortable when his father does come for visits. As far as the court goes no they will not see this as him not making an effort. Hell he could see him 5 mins and the court would see that as an effort. Hope this helped

Shannon