If your ex were to take your kids trick-or-treating, would they take them in your neighborhood or their own?

It depends on who has the nicer neighborhood. My Ex and I pretty friendly, so he would probably just take him around mine, since it is nicer with bigger houses. He lives in a townhome on the beach. Too many hills. If he wants to take him around his, have him pick them up at your house so you can get them all dressed. Either way, I think is fine.

I'm sure I'm being selfish... but they are not with him on Halloween and it is a school night so I was going to take them. He is taking them for his night this weekend and taking them to the Spooky Fun Fair at school....

I mean, I paid for the costumes, I'm dealing with all the school party stuff, I'll be getting them all ready and now all of the sudden they are going with him. He says they've told them from the beginning they wanted him to take them. They've told me they want me.

I don't think it is their choice. The plan was he did the fair and I do Halloween. Now they are saying they talked about it and he said he'd take them t-o-t'ing here and in his mother's neighborhood (a fine neighborhood btw that we both grew up in)

And then I can be the one to deal with the Halloween aftermath and bedtime and the next morning after it all....

Instead of going along with them he should have done the father thing and said, 'No, Daddy is taking you to this and Mommy is taking you trick or treating" but no, he just signed right up because that is what he wanted.

Halloween is not my favorite, but I've already put a lot into it. I'm aslo thinking, ok take them yourself and take them overnight and do the work, get them to school ontime in the morning....

I know, clearly, I explained more because I didn't get the answer I wanted right offLOL but there are also issues that he's caused in the neighborhood and in ways it is just I'm not even sure it is appropriate for him to be going door to door when there was a time people were concerned for my safety?

and, he's probably reading all this and getting ticked off but I don't think I'm saying anything mean, just the facts of the situation.

Yup, he readLOL

Oh Sue .. and the shadow reader. Stick to the original plan. If you are going to have the party you need to clean up the mess you leave behind. Translation.... Shadow reader, be a real parent. Come to an agreement as to which of you will be taking them t-o-ting and follow through with the aftermath. I personally agree with Sue, if the game plan was as you state above .... sue has done all the work getting them prepared, plans were made and they need to be stuck with. Sue if you prepared the kids then you should get the joy of watching them t-o-ting. Stop asking the kids who they want to take them because you are putting them in the middle and making them choose between their parents .. not good ... ask them instead where they want to go (which neighborhood) if you feel you should give them a choice at their ages at all.

I would love to take my kids out "trick or treating", sadly they think they have out grown it, sorry for your trouble sue, sorry you have a snopper also, ugh.

peace

Sue, I think you should take them. With that being said, what kind of problems will it cause for the kids? Are they going to feel guilty. If you put your foot down, will he say something of colored to the kids? If so, just let him. I know that isn't fair, but it is what it is. Can you all go together, or is it not that civil?