Hey Ya'll,

It's been awhile since I have been on here. My daughter is 13 months now. I have gone through a lot with her father, he has seen her once and ever since I put him on child support and had to cuss him out because he said i only wanted the money, he hasn't called me since. Lately I have been feeling very depressed. I just feel very sad. When my daughter goes to sleep I start to feel very alone, I love my daughter but I don't want my mood to rub off on her since she is such a great kid. I got real lucky with her.

I thought i would get over her dad by now, but for some reason i just can't. I am so angry at him because i feel he just doesn't care about what i am going through and he says he loves his daughter but he does nothing for her. I don't know what to do. If anyone has suggestions on how to cope please let me know. I am seeing a therapist but that just isnt helping. I want to cry at night, but I just don't have any tears left in me.

I haven't posted in a while either. My son has never seen his dad. My son is 3 now. As for getting over her dad, you never will. He will be pushed to the back burner from time to time but never really gone. My suggestion to you is to keep faith. Quit spending so much time being angry and sad and put all of that energy into loving and caring for your daughter.

Getting over the dads is possilbe for the most part. I have gotten over my son's father and now we talk about his marriage and other child. He just recently go back into my son's life but we have talked to each other off and on thru the past years. This has helped me see that I don't want this man I've grown out of him. As for my daughter's father I'm stilling working thru this one. She is only six wks so its still fresh.

There is a part of your heart that will belong to these men. Its a part of your past you can walk from. It does get better and we just have to remind ourselves of that.

It hurts but the hurts does dull and heal don't worry. It's still really fresh or you too even thoug your son in thriteen months old.

Good luck

SPIRIT

J you remind me of myself. Not so very long ago I was in your shoes ....I used to ask my self why do i give this man so much power that he has the abilty to alter my mood , to **** up a perfectly good day ,,,,to bring me from a smile to tears in a matter of minutes ,,,,my advice to you .dont deny it ,,,deal with it, cope with it, acknowleged to yourself that your are hurt and angry cry if you must don't fight it ,,,,,BECAUSE ,,eventually he will seem so small to you. if you try to hide it, it will come out at the wrong time ...( once I was at the store making a purchase when got to the register i just bursted into tears ,,,i mean boo hoo crying, from holding in so many emotions ) my motto is Over come the distance that challenges my persistance in other words it seems almost impossible right now that you will ever get to the point where he can't hurt you any more ,,,but time heals all wounds the sooner you bring your emotions to surface ,,the sooner you will begin to heal. Hope this helps you. I have not talk to my daughters fatheer in 3 months ...a year ago it would have destroyed me ,,,Today.... it means absolutely nothing ,,,I feel so free

Wow ya'll thanks so much. Ya'lls comments are very helpful. I feel like i am gonna break down any day now and I need to start acknowledging my pain and deal with it and learn to cope. I thank ya'll so much, God Bless Ya.