met a guy last wekk ...i like his attitude.from day one he has been offering to help me out with several things, seems very genieune.I am not a gold digger by far but im not a littl girl eiethr i have bills so if someone is gonna occuppy my space and time i'd lik,e for them to be in in a position where they can and will help when times are ruff ,,,this guy has that attitude we've been out a few times and i really like haging out with him, he's got a great persoanlity good head on his shoulders a decent job BUT and i guess this makes me vien ,,,theres is one problem ,,,he has ,,,hoew you say dental issues...the gaps i can deal with but some his teeth are stained yellow. They are all over the place ...i hate that this is a factor for me cuz it makes me seem shallow and im really not but this is such a turn of i was thinking that maybe if things go ok between us that i will eventually not notice it but this a barrier ,,,,am i being simple?

No matter how many of us try to go for personality over looks... its hard. My ex was what people would catergorize as "ugly." I never saw the ugly because he was such a great person [well at the time at least. now, thats a whole different story!].

It is understandable that you are turned off by his teeth. We can't help but have preferences in what we like in the opposite ***. I would give the guy a chance before throwing him away. You say he has a great personality and you like him, so don't let something minor like that get in the way. If the teeth are something you just can't get past, maybe you guys would be better off as friends. That way you don't have to lose him, but you also don't have to be romantic with him.

Maybe the more you see his personality shine, the less you'll notice his teeth. good luck!

Maybe I'm just shallow...but, oh well. I'm ok with that. I wouldn't date him. If it bothers you now, in the most intense phase of the relationship when people never seem to see anything wrong with the other person, it's going to bother you even more as the newness starts wearing off. I dated an amazing guy one time, nicest, sweetest, financial stable person I'd ever dated. One problem - he just wasn't 'cute' enough. I tried so hard to look past it because he was such a great guy, but in the end, I just couldn't and I ended up breaking his heart.

I know that's right alex ,,,,the only reason i was considering him was b/c it's been soo long since i've had companioship and i kind of liked having someone there ya know talk to and all ,,,,when we talk on the phone it draws me close to him but when i see him the next day it's like whoa! I FORGET EVRTHING ABOUT HIM THAT I LIKE AND FOCUS ON THE TEETH ,,,I told myself that the next man that wanted to love me i would let him and not be picky buti think i put my foot in my mouth. But im afraid if i leave him alone i may regret it ,,,,,decisions decisions

If you're already second-guessing the relationship so soon, think about how it will be when you're 8 months pregnant with his baby, you have to listen to him snoring every night, wash his dirty underwear and all those wonderful things you get to do when you're someone's wife... You'll resent him even more and you'll hate yourself for overlooking the fact that you couldn't even stand to look at him BEFORE you married him... He's not the only guy on the planet. Just because you might let him go, doesn't mean you'll be alone forever. You have to be picky or you won't be happy.

i second that,,,,

I dont think you can be too picky. If something doesn't work for you now, it probably wont work for you later. I learned that the hard way. When I find something about someone that bothers me, unless I confront that issue with or without involving the person in that conversation (no I dont have conversations with myself that often), I have a really hard time moving past that issue. I agree with alex.

I totally concur with AlexMichele

I hate to say this but I'm glad I'm not the only who can't get past a physical attribute. My baby's father has terrible bad breath, and what I would call "mossy" teeth. They look like they just need a good scrubbing. I've had to be very blunt and tell him about it, and for awhile he worked at it, but overall, nothing has changed, and I just can't allow myself to settle for this, just because he is nice. I say if you can be honest and he can do something about it, great. But if he can't you will always notice it.

bnhgal

up date on dude with the teeth ,,,,I broke it off with him, i did not have the heart to tell him it was the teeth so i just kept it simple and told him i thought we should just be friends. That we can still hang out sometime. I felt horrible because he just looked at me and could not say n/e thing. his context was like ,,,what i thought things were going great ,,,but he said nothing not one word for at least 2 mins ,,,which seemd like 10...he gave me a hug and said he wished the best for me ..but the look he gave me said other wise ...you like what you like and that's all there is to it ,,,

why didn't you just tell him... if we was willing to pay the bills he could have easily fixed the teeth issue

I considered that but kept in mind this is someone who i've not know long and was still getting to know.I thought it would a bit much to ask that of him so soon .He may have gotten the impression that that will have sealed our fate togethter,,,it's a lot to ask of someone i thought, aside from that i started seeing other little things that i was not pleased with ,,,gotta say though,i enjoyed having somene to call when i got off from work (other than my mother),,,lol