So here it is....Im Sara, 25 and mom to Jake, 18mo. We lef this father in July and have been living with my parents ever since...crammed into my old room. I havent been able to get a decent job yet, but had an interview on thursday that I think went well. Hopeful there. Although it doesnt pay enought to get us in our own place. Ill be here awhile...least long enough to buy a car. My truck was repoed wednesday after it has been sitting here since 2 weeks ago friday when i think the transmission went out on the way back from his dads. So need wheels too! The list keeps getting longer and longer doesnt it?!? Jakes dad didnt show up or call for his visitation this week. I had just voiced concern that he would wander in and out of jakes life since he was moving home and around his deadbeat friends. Lo and behold what happens? He doesnt show. Is there something that I should be doing about it? I dont think that Jake knows the difference whether he sees him or not. Its not like he can tell when a week has gone by...at least not yet. I cant make him see his son, and Id prefer not to speak to him unless I have too. But if hes gonna sneak out of Jakes life I would much prefer it to happen now rather than once he gets older. I think this is probably getting really long by now so Ill cut it off here before everyone falls asleep! lol Im really glad to have found this board and hope to be more active in the future.

Hi Sara glad you found the site. You are not alone. There are a lot of situations similar to yours. Sounds like you have a good head on your shoulders and are thinking things through. Not much you can do if Dad does not want to see his boy, pretty sad.
Hope all works out for you and to see you around.

Hi Sara.

I kind of know how you feel. Both the possible fathers of my daughter, Maddison took off when i was pregnant. One of them for good and one comes and goes. its really hard. Well the fact i don't know who her father is is hard, but add in the coming and going and it makes it worse. We are also living at my moms place, and probably will be until i finish college in 2 1/2 years. But by then i'll have a decent job, and be able to afford to move out on our own, and still keep my car. Hope things get better, and if you want someone to chat with i'm usually online.

Melissa

I hate to sound like Im defending him, but I need to clarify that this was the first week that he has missed seeing Jake. But a couple days past and still no word.
Thanks for the welcome