I am 28 and living with my folks. I have a five year old wonderful son. My X of 4 months (officially of 10 days), left us with out any money because of substance abuse. I am working part time and going to medical billing school 20 hours a week and college 3 hours a week. I have to study 10 hours a week. My mom fills in for me whenever I'm not home. She takes him to gymnastics or school. Sometimes the doctor.

Well I just found out they are moving to North Carolina. I have just started to settle in. I already had to move to a new town. I have made tons of good friends. I love my job. I really want to finish my education her in Las Vegas. If I stay, I will be broke and my son will have to drop his activities and go to day care. I will have to drop out of school and get a full time job making about $17 an hour. The thing is, I don't want to leave.

Anyone else out their who had to pick up and leave everything familiar behind. I have lived in Nevada for 17 years. It seems so scary.

Well im not in that exact situation but all the pieces are the same. I have been seriously debating whether or not to move so I can get away from my psycho ex and keep him away from my baby. If i move I will have to work all the time, put my newborn in daycare, and will be nowhere near my family. I decided it was best for the both of us is if I stayed. Like you it will be tough either way. Now I have to constantly be worried about what my ex might do and I will always be worried, but I want to finish school and I want my son to have family in his life. For you, I think moving to North Carolina might be the better choice. You will have your mom and so will your son. He can continue his activities at a different school in NC. You can transfer schools. I live in VA and there are tons of schools in NC. you can always find a new job and maybe it will do you good to have a fresh start without a deadbeat ex around. It will be tough but when you weigh it against working all the time, and not finishing school, and your sons happieness it just seems NC is a little higher than staying. Either way i wish you luck.

I have dropped everything and moved before. Being with family helps. I live in NC and love it. There is no place like it. It is a great place for kids. I have two so I should know LOL. Let me know if you have any questions about the area.

WELCOME to the board!!!!!!!!!

Do you know anything about Greensboro?

That's where we may be moving? We may also move somewhere in Virigna. My dad's company is in the middle of nowhere. A place called yancyville or something like that. I can't believe how cheap houses are. What's the weather like? How are the schools? Tell me everything, please!!!!

Greensboro is great. I love it. It has two colleges there and a good primary school system. I think my church has a sister church there too. Yanceyville is in the middle of nowhere. All I remember about Yanceyville is that the gas was cheap. LOL

G-boro is about 45 minutes up interstate 40 from where I live. If you want a smaller town and want to live near to where your paretns live but not in the same town would check out Burlington if I were you. Burlington has some really great Discount shopping stores (including a bridal mart is you need it ) It also has a really beautiful park for the kids. If I did not live 30 minutes from Burlington I would be there alot.

If you do end up going to virginia, I have lived here my whole life and would love to answer any questions I could to help you

Weather. I forgot to talk about the weather. G-Boro gets more snow than we do here in the winter, not as much rain due to hurricanes as we do and enjoys the same blistering heat and humidity in the summer. It does get hot. The allergies are off the hook here so if you start getting headaches and dizziness, go get some Claritin or see your doctor LOL

Great area for hiking, camping and general outdoor activities though; allergy triggers notwithstanding. People are general friendly also.

Thanks so much. I am still scared to death. My life has changed drastically in the last 5 months. I went from stay at home upper middle class suburbanite. To not sure how I am going to support myself and my son. The idea of leaving the place I call home, really upsets me. Other than my family, it's all I have of my old life. I am not big on change. My son would be very sad and upset, but I know in the end he would be fine. I have always wanted to raise my son in a place like the south or the midwest. Maybe this is all just part of the bigger picture. Thanks so much.