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I am New to SFV |
Hi all,
just wandering if anyone else feels the same way that I do and what I could do to make myself feel better. Everytime my daughter goes for her fortnightly visitation to her father's house, I get deeply depressed and withdraw from the world. I try to tell myself to stop being so stupid but I can't seem to stop the way I feel. Even keeping busy or social doesn't seem to help. Anyone else in the same boat or does anyone have any ideas for a cure? |
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"Not your average Jane" Setting New Standards |
I go through a similar emotional depression when my girl visits her daddy. I come home and the house is a little colder, darker, and quieter without her there. Knowing I can do anything I want sometimes doesn't even console me. I just feel lonely.
I do try to keep busy, though. I rent movies that I couldn't watch with her peeking over my shoulder, prepare "meals" that I'd never allow her to eat, such as nachos straight out of the bag. Sometimes I go out to Starbucks to read my book late at night just because I can. But I'm always excited when I get to see her again! And usually, it's not long before she's making me so crazy that I can't wait for her to go back! lol Hang in there, nothappyjan. I hope someday soon you can change your name to sortofhappyjan.  |
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I am New to SFV |
I have that a bit too. But I do something entirely unhealthy - which is go out with friends and get drunk. That way, I know that when I get home I don't have to dwell on how empty the house is when I get home. Not something I'd really recommend.
I plan on finding a healthier way around it soon. |
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On the Board |
I feel this way alot too. My son has been going to his fathers house every other weekend for a while now, and I just can't seem to get used to it. I think as moms we will always feel that hurt when our children are away from us. It's like we know we can protect them from anything and when they are away we have no control over what goes on. Try doing things for your daughter like baking her cookies or something while she is away, that way maybe you will anticipate her excited smile when she sees the cookies you made her, instead of focusing on her being gone, when you can't change that anyway. Going to her dads won't change, but you can change your outlook on it, at least for your health.
  Psalm 73:25 "Whom have I in Heaven but YOU? And Earth has Nothing I desire besides YOU." |
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Well, I didn't mean it like that. I know there are fathers on here, and it wasn't meant to offend anyone. I meant that Mom's are USUALLY the ones who children go to for comfort and nurturing, and fathers are more about learning things, and creating more strength qualities. NOT to say that Moms can't do the father role, or Fathers can't do the Mom role. I personally have to do them both, because my son's father is not a great role model in any way. I am not saying that all Dad's are the same, some are very affectionate, loving, and nurturing, and that is awesome! I hope that someday I will find a man like that. Psalm 73:25 "Whom have I in Heaven but YOU? And Earth has Nothing I desire besides YOU." |
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At A loss for Words - NOT! |
Starbucks??????? If we were living in the same town, I'd swear you were stalking me...LOL   Writing a guide for personal change, fullment and discovery for children with dead beat parents. If you as a parent, or the child have a story to share, would love to include it. |
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"Not your average Jane" Setting New Standards |
Maybe I am...
lmao! Seriously, though. What fun it'd be if we were closer and could sit on comfy, oversized chairs at Starbucks together when our kids have left us all alone. |
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At A loss for Words - NOT! |
oh please...now you just want to make me cry....
LOL Writing a guide for personal change, fullment and discovery for children with dead beat parents. If you as a parent, or the child have a story to share, would love to include it. |
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At A loss for Words - NOT! |
captmatrix...
come to think of it...i always wanted to see Seattle... it makes me think of Sleepless in Seattle... I would love to visit Seattle one day..i'll put it in my dream book.. Writing a guide for personal change, fullment and discovery for children with dead beat parents. If you as a parent, or the child have a story to share, would love to include it. |
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"Not your average Jane" Setting New Standards |
You've always wanted to see Seattle? Well, come on, then, Miranda! We'll paint the town red and find all kinds of fun!
I'm working on getting bikejon to come over, too. But I have different plans in mind of what I want to do |
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At A loss for Words - NOT! |
lmao
oh my gosh, i don't need to hear that lady..my ears ..my virgin ears... Writing a guide for personal change, fullment and discovery for children with dead beat parents. If you as a parent, or the child have a story to share, would love to include it. |
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"Not your average Jane" Setting New Standards |
Oh, you can stop that act right now! No one's buying it!
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At A loss for Words - NOT! |
They're not??? Oh geesh lmao Writing a guide for personal change, fullment and discovery for children with dead beat parents. If you as a parent, or the child have a story to share, would love to include it. |
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At A loss for Words - NOT! |
cool... Writing a guide for personal change, fullment and discovery for children with dead beat parents. If you as a parent, or the child have a story to share, would love to include it. |
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I am New to SFV |
Thanks everyone for your remarks it's good to know that my feelings are normal. I did (somehow) survive another weekend without my girl, and she is back with me again now YAY! which makes me a 'happyjan' until next fortnight.
Seattle sounds nice and I too would love to join you for a coffee captmatrix, but it's a little far to fly  so I will have to find a starbucks closer to home and drink my coffee alone...  |
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