Well.... after an awful weekend where my eyes were opened WIDE, I decided to leave my bf. I found out as wonderful as he was, it was all a sham. He had been lying to me about a lot of things and there were a lot of issues he never brought up that are all of a sudden overwhelming. He made it clear he's not willing to work with me to build a life together, so I have to build one on my own. I will keep everyone updated as I can. Wish me luck. I'm scared to death. I blew off all my friends and my parents are in no posistion to help me, so I am almost in a panic to find a place for me and my son where I don't feel like an actor putting on a show. I feel ripped off.... like everything I put into this was for nothing. God this hurts.....

Oh honey I am soooo sorry. I thought this was the guy that was so good to you? I hate how the wool can so easily be pulled over our eyes. As for the friends, based on your previous posts they were not the best of friends to begin with. Does you sister live near by? Will he work with you until you find a new place for you and your baby? Can you afford a studio apartment at least?

So sorry to hear this but I will be in prayer that things work well for you.

I haven't told him.... scared? yeah.

My sister lives at my mom & dads with her kids... thats why I can't move into their place with mine. I am not going to say anything to him until I know for sure I have somewhere to go. I just decided this today... well... last night.. I woke up this morning and just knew I couldn't be with him any more. He lied about wanting to be with me forever. I can't really explain without going into an incredible amount of detail, but just know all the wonderful things I have said... they were all lies.. he was lying the whole time... and it hurts like hell.

Calling all the crazies we love so much....time for a group hug...member in need!

Sera, you know I love you sweetie and if I could take you into my home right now I would and we'd go TP the dude's couch or something. From what you have told me, your decision is right, just remember to take your time. He did showing his colors...make him suffer a bit by being extra nice until you break the news.

*****hugs******

EDIT: ****HUGS******

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Originally posted by Blindsky75:
[qb] Calling all the crazies we love so much....time for a group hug...member in need!

Sera, you know I love you sweetie and if I could take you into my home right now I would and we'd go TP the dude's couch or something. From what you have told me, your decision is right, just remember to take your time. He did showing his colors...make him suffer a bit by being extra nice until you break the news. [/qb]

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Sera, sorry to hear this. Liars are pathetic.

Keep your head up and remember the good things going on in your life lately.

Sera,

I just read this! I'm so sorry that you are having to go through this. If you are comfortable w/the decision, know that you are doing the right thing for you and for Blair. You know that there are tons of people here that love you and support you. I would take you in here if you lived closer, but I know that you will be ok!

If you need to talk, let me know! My pm box is available anytime!!

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Well, I have been working already. I got off the phone a few minutes ago and I now have somewhere safe to move. I will be moving more than likely on the weekend of the 18th. Once I move in, my new roommate and I will give a 30 day notice and find a new place that is bigger. Right now he has a two bedroom place for him and his daughter, we are looking to get a three bedroom place as soon as we can. I feel so much more relaxed that there is a plan. I even have a small crew of people set up to help me move, and a truck and a van to help with the big stuff..... all I have to do is figgure out wether to tell my bf or just leave... and if I tell... when?

EDIT: I have already paid rent for this month...

Hi Sera,
I too share that hug....I personally would wait to tell him. Probably the day before or day of because he will either sweet talk you to stay or he can also be really mean and hateful (like bringing another girl around just to be mean) while you are still there....and you don't want to get caught up in that and you especially don't want Blair caught up in all that. Make sure to first get your real valuable stuff out too. I don't know what he is like but you just never know with a liar. It is good that you have a plan lined up. Try to get some rest, I know it is hard but at least you know now. You have had so many good things happen for you up until now so maybe this is a good thing and you just don't know it yet. Take it easy......Karen

I agree with Blindsky - be nice to him and then show him the door. That way he has no choice in the matter and you come off strong. You don't need to justify yourself to him at all. He'll know why you left. Any further discussion with this is a waste of your good energy.

good luck
hugss from the newbie,
jes

Okay.... my bad... I was a little upset and might have overreacted. This was thr first fight we ever got in and I was scared. It was a flight reaction. THings are better now.. thanks for all the support guys.... I guess I should stop being so dramatic

Hmmmmm, don't dismiss your gut reaction because he's playing MR. NICE GUY.

[pressed wrong button]

What caused you to distrust him in the first place, that somehow you've managed to take it all back? I don't know. I think at times women tend to be overly forgiving and allowing too much grace where it's not earned. Just keep your eyes peeled if you're planning on giving him another chance. If you're unsure, start writing things down. You never know when you'll need it. After the holidays, you may see a completely different picture.

Just be wary ...
jes, the newbie

I am not doing a blanket forgiving, but we had a long talk last night and I am giving him another chance. If it goes back to how its been this last weekend, then I will think about leaving again. It was just I have been terrified to commit to him and this was our first fight and I just kinda paniced and almost ran. Commitment scares the hell outta me.

EDIT: no thats not quite it either.... I was perfectly willing to hang out for the good times, but the first sniff at a bad time, and I was ready to bolt. Relationships are work, and we talked last night and worked it out.