Hi everyone. I'm feeling pretty bad right now and could use some advise. I'm 28 weeks pregnant and working two jobs. I hurt so bad I'm in tears every night. When I got pregnant I quit my good job as a server making $500 a week because I was throwing up so much I could not work. Then I went back to serving and found out I had placenta previa and was put on light duty work. Well I was constantly hurting myself as a server so I knew I had to stop doing that. I switched to hostess in a resteraunt where I know the manager real well, and got a cashier job at a local grocery store. Well I'm on my feet from 10:30 in the morning to 11:00 at night with an hour to switch clothes and drive from one to the other in between. The grocery store I work at is one where you unload the customers cart for them. All that bending and lifting leaves my back and arms shaking they hurt so bad. I don't know what to do. I need the money. I'm working 60 hours at two jobs and I still don't make what I used to as a server. I live with my dad and tonight I hurt so bad I was in tears the whole way home from work.When I got home he got upset because I was upset and he kept saying it's not worth it. But I desprately need the money. My baby didn't ask for a stupid mother who managed to fall for a loser and end up pregnant and alone. He deserves nice things he deserves the best and I want to get it for him,i don't know how much longer I can go on like this. I start back to school in Januaray and I need to have the money saved up to cover my bills so I can take the first month off with my child. i know the answer here is **** it up. Stop being a whiney brat. I'm trying, I guess I need to try harder.

All the money in the world will do nothing for you if you lose your baby due to excess stress. Don't risk it!!! **** it up, yes. **** it up AT HOME!! Not working your baby to death! You've already had complications, don't risk worse.

I had every complication in the book with my pregnancy. I was on and off bedrest the whole time, in the doctor's office 3 times a week for tests and shots, in and out of the hospital. I had to be induced and nearly died. Then nearly died once again from congestive heart failure from all the STRESS and medications they had given me from the complications.

I took time off work, time off school, time off everything! I worked out religiously before my pregnancy. I even quit that because my doctor told me to. Consequently I gained 75 pounds. I didn't care! Whatever I had to do to get my baby here. I was broke, before and after she was born. I had to quit school and move in with my parents for awhile. I even had to file bankruptcy.

So what?? All that doesn't matter now. I've lost my 75 extra pounds, still have my job and am finally back in school and living out on my own. And my beautiful angel is going to be turning 2 in just 2 days. There is no amount money in the world that can replace that.

since when is 'suk' a bad word?? lol

Laura, I am sorry you are having a hard time. Alex has a very good point. Placenta previa can be very dangerous for both you and your baby. You need to follow doctors orders. I know that is hard to do at times and I am not really one to talk but when it comes to the life of your baby also, follow orders dear.
Lots of prayers God bless.

I know you need the money but is it worth it to put your baby and yourself at risk? Look at it this way you only have what three months left? I would quit one job and work the other. Take it easy for little while. I know at my job they want me to do crap like life and heavy appliances and stuff. Guess what I tell them my baby and body are more important than this job. Besides it's not in my job description L. The way I look at it if I have to work full time while i'm pregnate I will do it as painless as I can and not risk my baby's health or mine. Its not being lazy its being aware and smart.

To be in that much pain just is not worth it or you or your baby. Please slow down and take a breath.

SPIRIT

I'm surprised you haven't been put onto bedrest yet, I'm guessing you will be sooner than later in this pregnancy due to the placenta previa and all of the activity. You need to stop and stop now!

Ask and you shall recieve. Well I decided i couldn't take it anymore. I had to draw the line somewhere and if it meant being poor than that was something I would just have to deal with. BUT a light shined on me and for once in my life everything worked out. Both of my jobs were extremely concerned about the well being of me and my unborn son. My hostessing job lets me sit when I choose, eat when i want, and they told me yesterday they just want me healthy so they want me to take it easy they will do anything they can to help. i have known the managers for years so they even gave me a raise to help me money wise. My second job was awesome as well, they cut my hours back, which is wonderful. The grocery store i work at has a self checkout so they are going to start putting me there so there is no lifting involved, and if that wasn't enough they have brought out a chair for me when I work so I can basically sit and supervise. As someone who gets the short end of the stick more often than not, I am beyond appreciative for all of this help. just when I seem to lose my faith in people they come back and suprise me!!!

Yay for you!! Keep tabs on your health and how the baby's doing and don't be afraid to cut back even more if you still need to. We got your back!

SPECTACULAR NEWS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

That's great to hear!! See there are people who care. I'm glad you are able to take care of yourself and your baby!

SPIRIT

I'm so happy to hear it is working out better. But remember to not be afraid if you have to cut back more. I worked up untill a week before my son was born. But my job is very very stressful and finally my midwife said "that's it!!!". Keeping that in mind when I returned I cut my hours back a bit. My son doesn't know I have less money... he just knows momma is home more. Which is certainly great in his book. Do what you must to keep you and your little one healthy. It's the most important thing!

I am glad you being helped out. Hang in there. Life is short, make as sweet as possible. When you hold that baby in your arms, you will know that any sacrifices you made, are well worth it.