I am a married but single 21 year old mother of a 3 year old, an 8 month old, and have a baby on the way. My husband and I are seperated. He went to jail FEB 4th of this year and I got out while I could. He was every kind of abuser you can think of. He would even abuse the girls, smacking them and mental abuse. We were a couple when I was 12 until I was 14 and we broke up for three years. When we got back together in 2004 he was a completely different person (in a bad way), but he didn't show it until after I was pregnant and felt trapped.
Now I'm just trying to make it as a single mother. My mom and I just got in a fight and we aren't talking, my husband is harassing me from jail and they won't stop him from calling me because I'm his wife. It's hard to find an affordable place to live and I'm having to live with my dad and his house is too small for 2 adults and 2 children. I stay depressed but I don't usually talk about it. I'm just looking for a place to go and chat or get advice. Generally make friends

I'm sorry to hear of your situation and that you are struggling. There should be a legal aid clinic if you meet certain requirements where you may be able to get your divorce done through. He can be served in jail and since you can send mail out through the jail, he will either have to answer or he will be defaulted, which in this case, hopefully he will be. I would seriously consider seeking legal aid if you have not already.

I think you are lucky to have someone tat can help you and a place you can live that is safe. You need to keep track of everything that happens from now even back to now, so that you can show the court how psycho he is. And btw, if he ever hits your kids again, you can file a child abuse report against him.

Welcome to the site and I hope you find what you are looking for here.

Get an order of protection now before he gets out, asking for no contact at all. He will be in violation of that order if he calls from jail....and quite handy to be able to charge him with violating that order while he's already locked up.

I can't get legal aid because he is constantly in and out of jail and has already used it so I can't use it against him. I can't file for divorce because I am pregnant and there is a law against getting divorce while you're pregnant in this State. I can't do the order of protection because I did last time we seperated and had it cancelled and they toldme not to show my face in there again asking for one, plus when he does get out and my girls visit with their daddy I want to be there at all times. I know him and he'd just try to tell our oldest how bad a person I am if he seen them with just his dad and step mom to watch.My oldest loves her daddy deeply because she didn't suffer as much from him as her sister did. He's always thought our youngest wasn't really his cause he's a paranoid arse like that. He controlled every aspect of my life so how he thought I had time to screw around I'll never understand. I could care less if the basta.. ever sees Daisy again but Melodie knows and loves her daddy. He's got it in his sick mind that he could get custody of the girls or joint custody. Ha! I wish I could see his criminal record cause it would run a mile long. He has at least 2 felonies if not 3 and one of the felonies is why he is in jail. He hasn't been charged in a court finding yet. He's only in jail cause no one can afford his bail