Hi everyone, my name is Depree and I am 24 years old and I am mom to Israel 3 and Emmanuel 23 months. This has been such a hard year for my family and I. Things have been pretty horrible since the birth of Israel abck in 2005. My exhusbands anger escelated and I feared for my life at times and I was afraid to leave. For some reason I thought if we had another baby things would be okay, Emmanuel was born in May of 2006. Then it got worse, I felt as though I was always hiding my children from their daddy and it was really hard. Finally in January of this year, my soon to be exhusband, was caught trying to choke our three year old son. That was it . He's been out of the home ever since. He is unable to see him , but he can see our little one, with supervised visits. But he is increasingly become more hostile towards me, he tells me he wants to be friends then yells and screams at me.. He says he loves his boys, which may be true, but there is a difference bewtween loving a person and really willing to take on the responsibility of caring for them and tending to them. Right now I am unemployed and I am seeking employment. My childrne have been sick so .. I was let go from two jobs, and it's been crazy. I just need support! THanks!!!
Depree in WA

you came to the right place. you need to vent .. then vent. Sorry to hear about your situation and things will be okay. I'm glad to hear you were able to get away from the situation. You are one brave woman and not let anyone tell you differently sweetie. Good luck with the job search. Welcome!

Wow. You are in good hands here. Just keep posting and we will try to offer what we can to help.

Are you and your children safe? Get the info for the closest Safehouse/Women's Shelter... perhaps even go see them and get the paperwork done so you can start to get some help from them.

Hang in there.

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my soon to be exhusband, was caught trying to choke our three year old son. That was it . He's been out of the home ever since. He is unable to see him , but he can see our little one, with supervised visits. But he is increasingly become more hostile towards me, he tells me he wants to be friends then yells and screams at me.. He says he loves his boys, which may be true, but there is a difference bewtween loving a person and really willing to take on the responsibility of caring for them and tending to them.

Welcome Dee -

Nice to see a new member, not so nice to see what brought you here. I'm so sorry you are going through all of this.

It sounds to me like your instincts are spot on and you are able to discern beyond what he says as compared to what he does. You are protecting your sons because you are a good mom. You are protecting your own heart from his volatile unpredictable ways - good for you! Any employer would be lucky to have a sensible level headed employee like you.

Keep posting and let us know what is going on. Good luck in the employment search.

By the way... he wasn't "choking" your son. He was "strangling" him and that word conveys a much heavier weight to it as it should. They are completely different things.

I still can't believe that... I would lose my mind if I saw my ex doing something like that.


Keep an eye on my posts to Melbear and Pinkflwr because they are in similar types of relationships with abusive partners going through the legal process.

It is very important to position yourself for the custody battle that is/could take place. And most important of course is the steps you need to take to ensure your children's safety.

Good to see that the ex is on supervised visitation.