How do I move on? I feel sick all of the time. I don't want to be separated I want to try and work things out, but he is depressed and keeps pushing me away.

I don't feel like I have anything to look forward to in life right now. So HOW HOW HOW do I keep moving day to day knowing that my life is crumbling around me?

HOW? Many of you have had to do it. How did you get through?

Storm79 One step at a time. You can come to gripes with the emotions and stress. There is healing.
I am from Kitchener too. I joined a group at one point called Divorce Care in town that was a great help, even when you don't want to talk. A fresh perspective from people who understand this time in your life.
Also KW Counciling is an amazing resource.

You go on because you have a little one that needs you to. You wake up for them and get dressed for them and cook meals for them and do laundry for them and then eventually the pain won't be as bad and you'll find you aren't getting up just for them but for yourself as well. I hope things get easier for you!

You are right about getting up and moving b/c of my son. If he wasn't here I think that I'd be in a ball sobbing all day.

It's just so new to me and with the holiday's and the fact that my son is only 6 mos and just got over colic.......it's just getting overwhelming.

My spouse had stayed here overnight on Friday and was here all day Sat. When he went to leave I had a panic attack. I have to start facing reality, but when he's here it's like nothing has changed and we are a family again. We laughed and had some fun and then boom! He's leaving and each time my heart breaks over and over........................

Currently he is living at his Dad's and is depressed, he say's that he is not 100% positive that our marriage is over and that he does not currently want a divorce just separation. He said he needs time to himself right now.

Each time I get upset he freaks out and say's he can't stand making me upset each time he comes here.

So how do you hide your emotions? How can you look at someone after 8 years and not get upset that they are leaving?

I just can't picture MYSELF being happy again if this is over. HOW CAN I START OVER!? I think that all of you are amazing people b/c you have started your life over..............

I would say at this point a separation is ideal. Going back and forth and watching him leave again is torture and in a separation the both of you are trying to see what life would be like without each other. Loving someone out of guilt or obligation is no way to love someone.

Let him go. If he doesn't come back with both arms open, you're better off without him. You're worth so much more than what he's offering.

You will be okay. My ex left me when I was 8 months pregnant. Unable to get a job.. no one would hire me at 8 months!!!!!!!! .... couldn't pay my bills... etc. Now, I look back and realize he did me a favor by leaving me before my son was born. Be strong. This time will pass.

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Originally posted by MMS:
You will be okay. My ex left me when I was 8 months pregnant. Unable to get a job.. no one would hire me at 8 months!!!!!!!! .... couldn't pay my bills... etc. Now, I look back and realize he did me a favor by leaving me before my son was born. Be strong. This time will pass.

How did you get the bills taken cared of, not to mention your insurance and yourself right after birth, if no one would hire you and he was gone?

Hi, Storm79, I am glad that you found us, I agree with everybody so far, it takes time , I went thought the same thing when i broke up with my ex, he was still coming over to see the children and staying over , spending quality time with us and when it was time for him to leave i got really depressed. You have to get strong and stay focused in time everything will get better.Time heals everything as bad as you feel when he leaves you will feel much worse if he stays and mopes around and complains. You want him to stay with you because he wants you not for the child or because he feels guilty.DO something that makes you feel good, go out with friends do something to take your mind off of things.