Or...or...OR...

I could make the trek out to Australia!

I've always wanted to go!

Sure! Come on out captmatrix, you can stay with me, plenty of room here. I live on a 5 acre property just 40mins from Brisbane and 50mins from the lovely Gold Coast... lots of theme parks for the kids... and beaches... and sun... and rain forests... and starbucks!

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Originally posted by HannahsBoy:
"You've always wanted to see Seattle? Well, come on, then, Miranda! We'll paint the town red and find all kinds of fun."

And here's some fun I personally recommend you gurlz could do together in Seattle.

http://www.seattlemidwifery.org/doula_education_breastfeeding.htm

Gee how thoughtful LOL

But..I think age before beauty is best...i'll leave the seating for you. Lmao

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Originally posted by nothappyjan!:
Sure! Come on out captmatrix, you can stay with me, plenty of room here. I live on a 5 acre property just 40mins from Brisbane and 50mins from the lovely Gold Coast... lots of theme parks for the kids... and beaches... and sun... and rain forests... and starbucks!

OMG - you have no idea how wonderful that sounds! And you didn't even mention the gorgeous men with the fantastic accents! lol

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Originally posted by jtsmommy2000:

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Originally posted by HannahsBoy:

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I think as moms we will always feel that hurt when our children are away from us

One should be careful saying things like this around here as there is a contigent of fathers here that would eat you alive for such a statement. I'll give you the benefit of the doubt that you didn't mean anything by it, like mothers are the the only ones who feel discomfort of seperation from their children. I've had full custody of my daughter for 6 months but before that we had joint for 3 1/2 years. We went week by week and let me tell you the week she went to Mom's was h*ll. The first 2 days were the worst. Not just missing her or worrying about her but going to her playroom and checking on her and she wasn't there. For 3 1/2 years this went on and it never got easier. What did get easier was that I knew what to expect so I just allowed myself to agonize for a day or two. I did come to enjoy some time for myself but by the end of the week I was agonizing again. One thing that helped me was that I made it a point to call her every day usually at night before bed. Advice from my experience is to feel the initial pain of them being away but then learn to enjoy some time for YOU. Hey kids are work...enjoy a moment of peace and quiet while you can.

Well, I didn't mean it like that. I know there are fathers on here, and it wasn't meant to offend anyone. I meant that Mom's are USUALLY the ones who children go to for comfort and nurturing, and fathers are more about learning things, and creating more strength qualities. NOT to say that Moms can't do the father role, or Fathers can't do the Mom role. I personally have to do them both, because my son's father is not a great role model in any way. I am not saying that all Dad's are the same, some are very affectionate, loving, and nurturing, and that is awesome! I hope that someday I will find a man like that.

Don't get me started LOL!!!

I am the one that has been doing both, I would read to her, take naps with her, play with her, sing to her, cuddle with her, give her baths, have her help me do anything I was doing, she has become daddy's little girl.

What do I get for all of this? My ex, who when we were together, seemed to pick on her more than care for her, would tell me she put her to bed just as much, I would "Take a break" and let them have time, then be blamed because I didn't want to go.

It's hard to have that away time initially, and I try to cherish all the moments that I have with my daughter, and yes there are times when it's hard and she tries my patience, she's only 6 though, so I have to give her credit for pushing and pulling to figure out what's right and what's wrong to do. I'm finally starting to be less stern, after all the crud that's happened with my ex, and enjoy the time with my daughter more.

We just separated, and the time my daughter is away, I haven't done much. I am going to put a list together this week of what needs to be done on the house to get it ready to sell. Then next weekend, I hope to start buying what's needed (paint, supplies ...) to get those tasks done. I'll do the hard things on my own, but wait for my daughter to help on the easier ones.

I can just see in her that us all being apart is starting to bother her. She was a bit mopey at the end of a 6 hour drive yesterday (understandably so), without having had mom or sis to talk to or play with. I can only hope things improve or stay the same, instead of sliding downhill for her.

It's good that I'm on good terms with the ex, I'm doing that for my daughter's sake. I hope that my rising above, is an influence for all in the family.

I definately feel the way you do. I think it is from not being in control of the situation and the comfort of knowing your child is in the other room. My son's father took him for the first time for the whole weekend and I tried to take a nap and I kept waking up feeling this fear about my son's whereabouts. What I did was put the weight on god's shoulders. And tried to enjoy myself. Its hard and only single parents understand.