So we were at the doctors office today. Its a speciality clinic, one of many we have gone to, for my sons skin problems. Its the first time we visited this office, it wasnt in that good of an area so I asked my father to come along with us for safety issues. So, we went in as grandpa's in the waiting room, we get our prescriptions and this lady looks at me and says, "Well at least I waited until I was 25 until I had kids". omg! My dad told her "braggingly" about his kids and how old they were, and his youngest daughter and grandson. Who is this women who thinks she condemn me or us? Are you kidding me lady..do you know anything about our situation? Its just very frustrating to me to hear these types of things. Its frustrating that young single parents always get sterotyped as "bad". My son is well provided for, I make sure of that, he has the best of everything and then some. Young parents always get sterotyped as bad and quite frankly I am tried of it. My son is well loved, taught, and apprecaited, just as kiddos should be. My son is going to the same preschool, wears the same clothes, as that of 'older' parents...I could go on and on. I think we are missing the point here; its not on how old we are, its how we raise our children that makes the difference as a parent.

If it makes you feel any better, I get it from the other side. I'll go to a mommy group and have fun and bond with other women and think this would be a terrific thing for Faith and me. Someone will ask ages, and when I say 43 they all stare at me, and then no one wants to be my friend anymore. One mom said, gee, you could be her grandmother.

Well Granny, whats that got to do with it?

Lurrrrrrch - looking for a b1tch slap are ya? I'm still younger than you!

Younger and better looking for sure. I usually have fun with this subject when it comes up, they want gramps, well don't be supprise if their attitude didn't invite him to the party.

You could have told her she was an 'old' mom! Especially if she was in her late 50's early 60s.. Most of that generation got married young and had kids young (18.. right outta high school), or at least most of my parents' friends did..

I don't feel so bad about havin kids young. My grandma had the first of 5 at 18, and my mom was married at 19. So what if I had my first young? 100 yrs ago, you were called a spinster if you weren't married by 18, and if you didn't have two or three kids by 19 (married at 16ish?) there was something wrong with you.

Funny how times change...

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Originally posted by Lurch:
Younger and better looking for sure. I usually have fun with this subject when it comes up, they want gramps, well don't be supprise if their attitude didn't invite him to the party.

ok lurch, 1st half of your response - thank you. 2nd half - huh? you lost me, i'd love to reply sarcastically but have no idea what you are saying. oh lordy the brain IS the first thing to go. sigh.

my point to K&J is simply that people are idiots. they will judge you for being too young, too old, too skinny, too fat, too whatever, blah blah blah. just thank God you dont have to be one of them.

i actually thought k&j was going to say the bitty thought her dad was her husband - lol.

It doesn't matter what age you are, if you are 43 or 23, it does depend on how you raise your children. People can be irresponsible at any age. I'm not a spring chicken, will be 27 in a few days but people still make comments because I dont look old enough or something. Maybe I look old!! lol

I do get comments though when people see me without a ring on my finger and then they see Kai. Jerks!

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Originally posted by smshybug:

I do get comments though when people see me without a ring on my finger and then they see Kai. Jerks!

Exactly. People do not know situations at all. They just automatically assume that we as women are irresponsible women when there are 1000's of situations out there.

What would a young widow have to say when eyeballed and judged? Or a woman who's bruises have healed? And even with the men, no one really pays attention to single dad's, probably because majority is mothers, but do they deal with this chit to?