Hi all

I am new here... I am 24 years old and recently got out of a 3 year relationship with a very controlling man. I ended up falling in to a relationship immediately afterwards with someone almost exactly like him and now I'm pregnant with the new guy's baby. I am about 7 weeks along right now. I live in Illinois, but I really want to move back to Florida where my family lives.

Does he have any say in where I move while I'm pregnant? He is trying to coerce me in to marrying him, which would be a huge mistake. He is very controlling and wants to have total say over every aspect of my life. I've been told that if I want to move, I should do it before I have the baby. Is that true? What are my options? I'm a little scared and I don't really know what to do. I am totally alone here and I really want to be near my mom and my brother so I have a support group during my pregnancy and after I give birth.

Ashley

Wow, that's a hard one. I would say to move before you have the baby. If he wants to persue a parental relationship after the baby is born, then make him go through the courts to do so. If he is controlling and just like your ex, then why would you marry this one... isn't that why your ex is your ex anyway? Just a thought. I'd definitely check around the laws before you make your move, though.... call a family lawyer.

If he is controlling and you think your life and your baby's is in danger then you should move now. If you move after the baby, the courts might prevent you from going to Florida. Take care of your baby and yourself first. But make sure that you do some research before you move.

Take care

Pregnancy is a roller coaster and I know for me being near my parents and sisters for all the ups and downs was wonderful. I would say move as soon as you can. I am not in the USA so have no idea what your laws are but if you think it may be a problem then check it out.