I am a single mother of a 3 year old girl. I love her to death and would do anything for her. Now against what i knew better to do I am prenant again. My daughter is use to being the only yound child around and getting everything she wants, I am so afraid she will be upset about all of this. Anyway the main problem is that the guy i am pregnant by is 13 years older then me and is in teh middle of a divorce. He keeps saying how we are goin to be together and other things for the future and thats not what i want. i don't mind him being involved in the babies life, but i am not ready to settle down with him. I know i can handle being a single mom i have a great family and so much support. He doesn't understand this he acts like he left his family for me but he did;t he was already leaving anyway. I guess i can stop complaining now. Sorry for venting. I just don't know what to do, i can't believe i got my self in this trouble agian. Thanks for listening.

Hi,
You have found a great place with lots of really nice people here. I think most first children feel a little displaced when a new baby comes along but I think that can be minimised by being included in everything and a little special time for just you and her. I hope you can figure out a good way to keep your baby�s dad involved in it�s life, does he have other children? I don�t really have any advice, just wanted to say Hi and welcome you to the board
Take care

Hi and welcome to the board. This is a great place to be. As for your 3yr old being unhappy my son was an only child for nine yrs and I just had my daughter two months ago.....know what he worships the ground his little sister pukes on! LOL You should not have a huge problem w/it. She will adjust. Granted there are days that my son misses the old days of me and him but then she will smile or laugh and he forgets that past life. You will do fine.

As for the father. That is a hard one. My daughter's father walked on me and I'm doing ok. It gets hard but thats just the hurt feelings that have not healed yet. Like you it floored me when I found out I was pregnate...I was not trying and did not want anymore children. I decieded to keep her and am happy I kept her.

I have not grea advice but I hope things work out for you. It's scary but it sounds like you will do fine. It's great to have the great family support. I have my mom and stepdad there for me and it's a HUGE help. Good luck to you and stick around you will find a great support here too.

SPIRIT

Hey, welcome. I think your daughter will adjust pretty well. Invite her to make decisions with you about the new baby. Involve her in as much as you can as long as it is appropriate for her. She will enjoy the attention that she is getting and feel like a great big sister. Compliment her on her choices for the new baby and tell her how cool it is to be a big sister. And don't settle down if you aren't ready, sometimes its better to be a single parent than an unhappy married parent.