I'm new here. My ex has not been paying child support regularly. He sends a little every month or two but never what he is supposed to send. He asked me the other day how money was. I reminded him that he wasn't paying his child support and asked what he thought. I mean, DUH! Anyway, he said something to the effect of if things are bad am I ready to come back to him yet. I'm not going back there and told him so. He was emotionally and verbally abusive. I left when he threatened to beat our son. He has said several things that make me think he is withholding child support just so I well give up and return to him. I don't have the money to go back to court over this. CSE is doing nothing. They have a wage assignment in for him, but he works cash only jobs most of the time so they never get anything. He has another child (besides the two we have together). Between the three he is over 15,000 behind in child support. He owns nothing in his name (his dad's name is the same and everything is "in his dad's name"). CSE put in to take his income tax refund and we received $12. I am so tired and frustrated! I am a frugal person and my children and I could survive on the child support if he would just send it (we wouldn't have everything we want, but we'd have what we need). I have been a stay at home mom since I became pregnant with my oldest except for occasional house cleaning or typing papers or other work I can pick up on the side. As much as I hate it, I looked into putting my children in daycare and getting a full time job. It was going to be a minimum of $800 month for the two BUT my son has been "pre-diagnosed" as autistic. (He's going through all the testing and stuff right now.) Some daycares would not even consider him. Others said if he was autistic they would need to hire a special person to stay with him so he won't hurt another child and I'll have to pay for that person. My family all live too far away to be of much help to me in watching the children while I work. I feel like I'm backed into a corner and have no way out. I guess I really don't have a question. I just needed to vent for awhile which is kind of embarrassing and something I rarely do. But anyway, thanks for giving me a place to rant and rave.

it is a tough place to be in.

Is there no subsidized care or assistance in your state. With a autisic child could you not apply for assistance? I am not sure what it would be called in your state, here it would be a disability.

I thing a stay at home single mom is a very rare thing in the world.

I know you are feeling very frustrated and overwelmed right now. I was a SAHM when my and my stbx split up. I wasn't sure what in the world I was going to do. I did get a job part-time and I signed up for all the assistance that I could possibly get. I agree with iamharmony and check with the state for childcare. Also check for section 8.
I wish you luck and come here any time to vent.

Thanks. I have checked on disability for my son. They will consider it when all the testing is finished. I had previously applied for section 8 and just received my letter today saying I can come pick up my vouchers. A friend also just told me about income based childcare not far from here. I am checking on it next week.

A stay at home mom is a rare thing, it seems. I love being home to take care of my children and see every first for them.

I appreciate having a place to vent when I need to. Thanks so much!

What part of TN are you in?

Should not even be a case for the court, should be a law enforcement issue..
Get the a******le behind bars untuil he is uptodate on his payments..
The society spend mmore effort on collectingh traffic tickets that help single parents collect childsupport..

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next time I will use spellcheck.....