well Im new here and i have a question? My Wife called it quits and left me and my 5 year old son, its been about 4 months she went into party mode with her friends and really screwed up, so I want to get divorced, can a man get child support from a women?, sorry if this is a dumb Q? Ijust dont know anything about all this can anyone help Thanks

There is no such thing as a dumb question. Yes, you can get child support from her. She is just as financially obligated as a man that walks out on his family. If she doesn't want to be there physically, she should and will have to be there financially. I hope it all works out for you and your son. I'm sure this is a very difficult time for you both.

Welcome to SFV, though. There are great people here that have been where you are and will have tons of advice for you. Don't hesitate to ask questions or give advice of your own. I hope to see you around the site!

Thanx!

Welcome to the site rwito.
As already answered you certainly can get child support ordered from her. They'll use the typical formula with both parents incomes etc. to come up with an amount if an agreed to amount isn't reached beforehand.

I really dont need her help now cause I make enough money for me and my son, but what do yall think ,should i ask for it or what?

rwito,
Welcome to the site. Even if you do not need the money.. your son is entitled to it. Check for the state of Texas.. in Florida you can file a motion for temporary needs now. You do not have to be divorced to get support for your son. If you do not need it then put it in an account, CD's, mutual funds, college fund for your son. He has a right to this money, as you do for his care. She is his parent too and needs to provide for him.
Welcome again. Stick around!
Carla

I wouldn't worry about support right now, if you have custody, you'll surely get an order. You should be filing for full legal and physical custody.

If she's in party mode, you should be worrying about her showing up at the door one day wanting to take the kids with her. Get a good divorce lawyer, you will need one to get custody. Don't do this without one.

They say the best time to look for a good job is when you have a good job. I feel the same way about support. You may not need the support now but having it in place could save a lot headaches if the time came that you do. The process can sometimes be lengthy and ugly and if that time comes when you do require support, it will be there.

And leftover is right. Custody is definitely a top priority.

Just my opinion.

I'd work on the custody things 1st. Then child support. However just because its ordered doesn't mean you'll actual get. My sons dad almost never pays and I really don't need the money. But heres what I do with what little comes in, I put it in an education account for my son, at the cost of college, it will be needed then.

Evestar is right. Show your local system that the most important issue to you is the welfare of your child...which it is. Then ask for support for mom. In the end the child will be better for it if she pays...even if it is modest..as a show of support. If she doesn't, that is an issue for you to determine. It isn't about money always, it is about what we tell our children is acceptable behavior. All of what we go through with them is a lesson.

Jeanie