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mike4066
I am New to SFV
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I just found these forums and had a few quesions..

I'm a divorced non-custodial (sorry, i know this is a single family board, but i have to take a moment to ask). The children are ages 2-4. My ex is re-married and just re-adjusted the child support for the children.

After the increase i'm responsible for $1,300 a month in support. Prior to this i was responsible for $600 a month. Does this seem extremly high to anyone besides me? My income hasn't changed but a couple thousand dollars since the first adjustment 2 years ago. Her's hasn't changed either, the only change is she put them into daycare since the first time. (daycare was 860 a month)

After the childsupport is taken out of my paycheck i'm left with about $350 every two weeks. This isn't enough to make my house payment/car/insurance. Not to mention eating/gas/water/electric. It is going to completly ruin me financialy and mentaly. The only reason I've been able to make it so far is because I live iwth my girl friend. Now that its increased this much, its going ot put us in a position where we may lose HER house.

I fully understand the need for child support, i'm not against paying it. I have my kids tuesday,thursday and eveyr other fri-sunday. I love the time we spend together.

Is there anything I can legaly do to change this again? Its going to kill me.

(oh and my ex loves it, she laughed when I told her how bad it was going ot be for me)
Not to mention the week after they set the child support she put them into another daycare at a cost of almost $200 less a month.

What can I do? besides go crazy worrying about losing my house/car/life?
 
Posts: 1 | Location: ohio | Registered: 19 December 2003Reply With QuoteEdit or Delete MessageReport This Post
LipGloss
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I would suggest contacting your child support enforcement agency...yes, their there to help the payer as well as the payee...they can tell you what avenues to take. If you can't get help there...look in your yellow pages for free legal aid in your area.
 
Posts: 22 | Location: NC | Registered: 14 December 2003Reply With QuoteEdit or Delete MessageReport This Post
mdcmn7
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Mike,

that sounds really high. first you need to find a lawyer. the free legal aid places are a great way to start. If you are near a law school many of them offer free legal aid as a way to gain the students experience.

You can also do some research on your own. depending on your state, go to their domestic relations website. Most will have a payment calculator. it is a simple thing where you plug in the numbers and they spit out what you should be paying. it is not a hard and fast rule, but it is a guideline that most courts look at very seriously.

I am not sure how she got awarded that much $$ but something doesent sound right. there is no way they should expect you to live in 1/3 of your income.

mdcmn7
 
Posts: 33 | Location: USA | Registered: 24 July 2003Reply With QuoteEdit or Delete MessageReport This Post
mdcmn7
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Another thing you can do is check out the local FACE chapter. they are a fathers advocacy group and some people have reported them to be a great help. keep in mind they can be a bit fanatical, that is not always a bad thing

mdcmn7
 
Posts: 33 | Location: USA | Registered: 24 July 2003Reply With QuoteEdit or Delete MessageReport This Post
NoDramaBabyMomma
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Yes I agree, the "Fathers Have Rights" group is a avenue to take or file bankruptcy. I had a friend in the same situation and he is broke after paying child support/car/etc...and then 8 years later finds out the child isn't even his!

Good luck!
 
Posts: 4 | Location: Georgia | Registered: 28 December 2003Reply With QuoteEdit or Delete MessageReport This Post
Queti
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quote:
Originally posted by mike4066:
[QB]I just found these forums and had a few quesions..



You can contact the CSE where you live and "Request" an modification on your own. Also "request" an audit of your case. A modification can be done when there is a substantional change in ones income. Whether it be the NCP or the CP.
(JMO) And would also be cheaper than a lawyer, also learn the cse laws and guidelines. They are there for both parents.
 
Posts: 8 | Location: usa | Registered: 27 February 2004Reply With QuoteEdit or Delete MessageReport This Post
Single40momChicago
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Originally posted by mike4066:
[qb]I just found these forums and had a few quesions..

I'm a divorced non-custodial (sorry, i know this is a single family board, but i have to take a moment to ask). The children are ages 2-4. My ex is re-married and just re-adjusted the child support for the children.

After the increase i'm responsible for $1,300 a month in support. Prior to this i was responsible for $600 a month. Does this seem extremly high to anyone besides me? My income hasn't changed but a couple thousand dollars since the first adjustment 2 years ago. Her's hasn't changed either, the only change is she put them into daycare since the first time. (daycare was 860 a month)

After the childsupport is taken out of my paycheck i'm left with about $350 every two weeks. This isn't enough to make my house payment/car/insurance. Not to mention eating/gas/water/electric. It is going to completly ruin me financialy and mentaly. The only reason I've been able to make it so far is because I live iwth my girl friend. Now that its increased this much, its going ot put us in a position where we may lose HER house.

I fully understand the need for child support, i'm not against paying it. I have my kids tuesday,thursday and eveyr other fri-sunday. I love the time we spend together.

Is there anything I can legaly do to change this again? Its going to kill me.

(oh and my ex loves it, she laughed when I told her how bad it was going ot be for me)
Not to mention the week after they set the child support she put them into another daycare at a cost of almost $200 less a month.

What can I do? besides go crazy worrying about losing my house/car/life?[/qb]
 
Posts: 2 | Location: Chicago | Registered: 11 March 2004Reply With QuoteEdit or Delete MessageReport This Post
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