Hi! I am new to the site. I have been reading some of the post to try and get ideas on what to do. Here is my situation. I have a 3 year old daughter that lives with me. Her father doesn't pay child support like he should. He gets to see her 2 Saturdays a month. One for 2 hours and the other 4 hours. I have to drive to his town for one saturday and he has to drive to my town for the other. The reason for this is because on one of his visits he was pulled over for DUI. We have been to court numerous times and for what, nothing! The judge has told him to pay and told him if he doesn't he goes to jail. Yeah right. He has yet to see jail for not paying. He owes $2600 right now and is still not paying. The job that he works at I think he gets paid under the table. He gets to claim her on taxes every other year. For what reason I dont have a clue. He doesn't do taxes! If I don't give him his visits then I go to jail. Its crazy. We go to court again in May for nothing I am sure. I can't get anyone to do anything. Court is wasting my time and money. Any suggestions. :thanks:

Unfortunately, there is not a whole lot that you can do. You could tal to another lawyer but many times in order to get a judge to rule another way you have to prove that there has baan a change in circumstance.

What you CAN do is keeo coming here for support to help youthrough the rough emptional spots, hsare in a few laughs, cause a few laughs and give some good advice to others!

Nice to meet you and glad that you found us!
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Does it not matter that when he got the DUI he had her in the vehicle with him?

Oh and thank you for the advice. It is really appreciated.
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A DUI with her in the vehicle could be seen as child endangerment, well fact is it IS child endangerment. Might get the system to change it to supervised visitation for a while with stipulations such as parenting classes, maybe some recovery meetings etc. Different locations deal with things differently, I would certainly get a lawyers consultation in your area to see what they think.

Yeah, I would say that does make a difference but the system is sooooo full of cases right now that you really have to be the squeaky wheel in order to get your time, ya feel me? What does your lawyer say the plan of action is? Is there one?

The visitation is supervised by me. We meet at McDonald's in his town for 4 hours and then we meet at the McDonald's in my town for 2 hours. Yet when we get there he moves to where I can't see him or her. I don't know what the reason is for that. He will also take her outside to his vehicle when he wants too. Just to let you know, he still does not have a drivers license due to driving without any insurance and too the DUI. He was ordered to take an acohol class that he has yet to do. He doesn't seem to be in any hurry to do that. The cop in the town didn't charge him for wanton endangerment but the judge there knows she was in the vehicle with him and his mother. Whom still comes with him to the visits along with everyone else. He has yet to keep her overnite. The most he has had her has been 7 hours. Also, he took out health insurance on her (she is on a medical card) and doesn't keep it up. I don't see why he can't just let the health insurance go and pay his child support. With the health insurance card I will be out money (him having to pay half of what is out of my pocket) and why, he won't pay his half. Just doesn't make sense to me. Thanks for your help.

My lawyer says that his supervised visitation won't last long once he takes his classes. This is his second DUI in 3 years along with other things. Yet the judge seems to be taking up for him. He is more worried about him taking his class than he is his paying child support. Who is to say that he won't do it again and maybe the next time hurt my baby. I don't see how a judge can give him many more chances. Anyway, thanks for the advice.

Well just to let you know. We went to court yesterday over my ex not paying his child support. Guess what?! He got what they call a pink slip. Oh my, don't be so hard on him. WTF! Yet again he gets by with not paying. They gave him a payment plan! He was already on a payment plan! I just don't get it. He is now $2800 behind and nobody cares. He came out laughing. Is it really that funny?! I'm sick and tired of this happening. There has got to be another way. Any suggestions please? Thanks for helping a slowing going insane person!
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It just kills me when I see the ones getting away with not paying and yet no consequences. Years ago I was deliquent in child support with my middle daughter. There's a lot to the story http://singleparentsnetwork.com/ubb/ultimatebb.php?/topic/10/157.html but regardless I was in arrears.

I lost my driver's license, locked up for contempt, you name it they did it......and so I paid. I swear I think the difference was her mom was on welfare and the system pulls no punches when collecting state money. If only they would fight that hard for the mother's that are doing without.

Wish I had a suggestion other than to hope things change for you.

Hello Makingit. My ex too is behind $3100.00 plus and does not have insurance on kids. My ex has lived in same place since he left you would think they would just go pick him up. I am one of the ones who was supporting my kids w/o help from the govmnt until this year. I have the A.G. goin after him. It's taken at least 6 mos. for them to file on him and serve him his papers and it's been 2 mos. since they sent me a letter sayin he was served, but I still have not gotten a court date. I call the A.G.'s office on a regular basis and still I am waiting. Just stay on top of things and dont let them forget about your case so you don't get lost in the system. I know I am not gonna let them forget mine!!!
Good Luck,
Laurie

What is arrears
Thank you

My ex-husband does pay child support, but not nearly enough. I have 4 children and he pays less than what he should. The kids know it. My daughter one time asked him to buy her something and his response was "I pay child support, I don't have to buy you anything." What a sweetheart. He came up to see the kids during spring break. I let him stay at my house, use my van etc. I was out of town for work. When I got home he left me a list of "fix ups" he did around here. Money he spent on food and gas for the van--which I had about 3/4 full when I left it for him. He said everthing he did should be worth something--inother words, I think he was expecting me to pay him. I told him I appreciated the things he did, but I didn't ask him to do it. So after we took him back to the airport the kids all started asking me for things. I asked them--"didn't you ask your dad?" Their response "you know he wouldn't get us anything."

They are going to be with him for about 5 weeks this summer. They have already asked me if I would give them money for the summer. It just really irks me. I told them that they would have money for their trip--flight for food, cuz of course the airlines won't feed you anymore. That's what I did when they went for Christmas, I sent them with food and spending money. I figure that while they are in his care he should provide for them. I don't want them to feel that I don't care, they know I do, but he is their father. Am I wrong? Oh well, just rambling. Thanks for "listening."