I haven't received a dime in child support from my ex in about a year. I never persued support through the courts because I was totally capable of supporting her by myself...and his mother watches Jewel everyday for me which saves a bundle in daycare expenses. Now, since Jewel is in daycare, dance class, pee wee bowling and growing like a little weed..on top of having a higher house payment and living expenses with this move, I need money. I asked him several times for SOMETHING..whatever he could give and most recently asked him just to cover the $45 for her dance class this month and i've not seen a penny . I've been seriously considering taking him to court. Here is my thing though...his mother still cares for Jewel everyday and takes her to and from preschool which is a life-saver. I also make about $11.50 an hour more than he does. How much am I really going to get? Even $50 a month would help, but is it going to be worth the trouble? I know laws vary from state to state, but is anyone in a position where they make significantly more money than the other party? And how much do you actually get every month? I need some help thinking this through before I make any moves...

Well I found an Ohio Child Support calculator online and that estimated that I would be entitled to $164 a month. If I can count her preschool tuition as daycare i'd get around $192! That would help out tremendously! It would pay for the monthly groceries and gas for my car! I'm going to show him this and explain to him one more time that i'm now in a position where I will need to persue this and I think i'm finally just going to do it. I think i've been nice for long enough.

Well I just spoke to him about it and he got really defensive. Claiming i'm "threatening" him. It wasn't a threat, it was a fact. I need child support from him and i've been more than patient! Now i'm enraged and will be calling the CSEA this week!

Ah ha! So that's what you did with the dirt! Thanks for the little push though. I did call CSEA today and got the information I needed to proceed. I'm on vacation the last week of October so i'll go down there then and file for a hearing. Thankfully we don't have to go through establishing paternity. When she was born he signed a paper at the hospital acknowledging paternity and waiving the test. Not that I was concerned, it just would have been ONE more day off of work to do that.

I would say do it. it helps when little things come up. if you don't needed it put into a account as use it when something comes up. its want i do with kayley's child support.

Hello everyone,

I am new to single parents, but I thought it would be a good idea for me to chat with other parents in my situation. I have a 4 year old daughter and don't receive child support. Her father is not consistent with we with financially and gets her every other weekend. Now he is upset because I will not let him claim her on his taxes. I have not done child support but I will. I think it's in my best interest...

I'm prepared for it to take time. At least i'll start the ball rolling. I do plan to save it for college for her unless I really need it. I will first have to see how much I get then decide from there. Even if I can save a portion of it.

Verline..do NOT let him claim your child on taxes if he's not paying you anything. What nerve that he even suggested it! Welcome to the board by the way..

astarte,

i don't think its going to take too long. at least you don't have to the paternity ... that nerve wracking waiting for the results. Just to prove that you were telling the truth. We got the results in late february and temp went into effect on March, and Permanent took effect on April 25. It took the state a couple of months to relocated my ex. Since when he salary is garnishment. learned the hard way on vacation.

Verline - do not! do not let he claim her his taxes. he has not right to it. You do!

Thor, my ex is learning the hard way. he is required to 2 payment until is backsupport is paid.

i filed for child support through the state of florida in sept on 2006... i am STILL waiting for anything to be done. Apparently there are a backlog of cases, and they have stopped working on them for now. Meanwhile. my kid lives off of mac and cheese while hes going and getting custom paint jobs on his car. Lets hear it for the state of florida! WOOHOO!

I know everyone's situation is different and all parents should be responsible for their kids, but sometimes it's too much drama to deal with, especially if one of the parents is obviously harmful to the child's well being.

I've witnessed many family members and friends who have gone through the troubles of claiming child support and the troubles with their ex's, sometimes it goes on forever.

From the beginning I knew my kid's father was going to give me problems and I didn't want to drag the situation for years. He had options and chose to relinquish his rights as a father. This has worked out well for me, I'm okay with it and prefer it this way. I'll admit, it's tough financially, but it would have been the same if I were to claim child support, except for the drama. This may not work for everyone, but if he has no rights, then I do not have to worry about my child being tossed around in the situation.

There are a lot of great fathers out there who choose to be responsible, but are in a tough financial situation. I applaud those who choose to acknowledge their responsibilities.

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Do not let him claim the kids.....Secondly get the child support order......then laugh as they take his income tax for the back child support he owes!

I love the way you think, Thor! You are so undercover evil

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Originally posted by KorbinsMom:
i filed for child support through the state of florida in sept on 2006... i am STILL waiting for anything to be done. Apparently there are a backlog of cases, and they have stopped working on them for now. Meanwhile. my kid lives off of mac and cheese while hes going and getting custom paint jobs on his car. Lets hear it for the state of florida! WOOHOO!

WOW! i filed on august 06 and everything was complete in april court order

I was contemplating similar feelings when I went to modify my child support this summer. Someone helped me put it in perspective as my children deserve the love and support of both parents ------ so I need to stop helping my EX keep his income and allow my boys to have a life they deserved by law. I just recieved my first modified child support this month and both of my boys felt a huge difference... we bought a few more pairs of pants that fit properly now and socks that were more comfortable than the ones I could afford before. Eventhough they are just a few extra things they didn't need, they really felt blessed.

I have a child support order that hasn' been enforced in 5 years. I call to every 30 days to have the court order enforced, but the only thing they have done are suspend a drivers liscense that was already revoked for D.U.I, and set contempt hearing's three times, all of which Deadbeat Dave didn't have to pay a dime. The did arrest him on a warrent for something unreleated to child support, set a bail of 10% for child support (he had a warrent for not showing up at a contempt hearing). When he went in front of the judge for bail review, they let him go on his own recognizance. He now owes $21,550.86 in child support, and has now filed for a modification because he went and made 3 more kids since his first son who is about to be 5 years old.
Can he get away with not paying for so long, then asking them to reduce the amount?