My son has been asking for a little brother or sister on a regular basis now (he is an only child). Is it alot more difficult for a child to adjust to a new baby as they get older? Attention is always being focused on that one child, but when a new child is in the picture, the attention has to be shared. Are they more understanding because their older, or does the "adjustment" seem harder because they've been an only child for many years?

well, my oldest did the same thing, he asked for for a little brother for years. and by insane coincidence both I and his mother had sons at about the same time(mother and i of my eldest are divorced, i have custody of him) now my 14 yr old has two brothers, both 2 yrs old, and he loves to spend as much time with them as he can. i have my 2 yr old every weekend, and we see his other brother every few months at best. simple fact is. all kids want sibling, kids allways love thier brothers and sisters, even if hey dont allways show it. however, having another child just to fill that need, may not be a good thing. what you have to ask is... do you want another child, are you prepared to have and support another child? if you are not, dont worry too much. being an only child isnt that big a deal for kid. wanting sibling is a passive desire for most kids. most would be amazed how much work it is to be a good big brother/sister LOL

Kenn

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Originally posted by 2TIRED 2DEAL:
[qb]My son has been asking for a little brother or sister on a regular basis now (he is an only child). Is it alot more difficult for a child to adjust to a new baby as they get older? Attention is always being focused on that one child, but when a new child is in the picture, the attention has to be shared. Are they more understanding because their older, or does the "adjustment" seem harder because they've been an only child for many years?[/qb]