yesterday i finally filed for child support after 8 yrs of waiting because i was scared that it meant automatic visitation rights and that he could make her come to live with him,he wasnt there for her birth nor did he sign the birth certificate and he has never seen her. we were never married,i left him when i was about 1 month pregnant with my daughter.we decided he wanted to grow pot in the house,and i knew that if i stayed that they would take my baby away from me, if he was caught and i was with him.help!
michelle

I filed last week and my son is 2! I have the same fears about visitation. My Ex ran with a bad crowd and I found out he was stealing money and cheating on me and so many more horrible things. I left him when I was about 4 months pregnant and saw him once when my son was about 3 or 4 months old.

I wish I could comfort you, but I'm feeling the same way you are right now!

Hi, not sure what help you are seeking. It sounds like you have made some pretty good decisions already, previously by getting your child away from an environement that really could have caused legal issues and possibly child protective services to get between you and your daughter if not the jail system.
And you've now filed for child support which is good, you should not have to do this on your own. Definitely nothing automatic for visitation can come from it, he can try to file for it on his own, but considering the amount of time that has passed that he hasn't been involved with her, it will be quite difficult. If he tried hard enough he might get some supervised visitation started at the very best.
Part of the child support process will involve establishing paternity. Either he signs acknowledgement, admitting to it, or submits to testing, they won't start collecting child support until there is proof of paternity.
If there's something other, specific you are trying to find out let us know.

Don, you always know how to comfort those of us who need help.

Serenity4me, Don is right, you have already done good and the process is not as scary as you think. It is a long process however. Be prepared to wait. And by all means, keep the questions coming as they pop up.

I have to agree with the above.
Good for you. It will be okay and like Don said the possibility of him getting visitation will be slim. If he does it will start supervised.
Even if he did go for visitation how long would he keep it up? It's been 8 years

Good for you. The others are right, visitation would have to be supervised. Good luck with the process and I hope everything goes smoothly and you don't have to wait too long.