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Hello. this is my first time here, so please bear with me. i've been searching high and low for some guidance as much as i'd like to give. i have a 7 year old, and have practically been raising him on my own since birth. i have been in and out of court for years with the "dead beat" who claims to be dad. i can catch diarreah of the mouth talking about what he doesn't do. well, i'm hoping someone might have some type of info i may look into, here's the situation. i have been receiving support (which was forceably taken) when his checks were getting garnished. well, surprise, surprise...the checks have stopped coming. MOMS, u all know how difficult it is to raise a child nowadays...well, i call his "job" and they state that he is no longer employed, so i confront him on his "job situation" and he claims how he is working. so, i ask him where (location) so that i can contact the support agency with this new info being that he WON'T...and he claims that it isn't any of my business. now, is there anything i can do in order to get this investigated? lord knows i am 2 tired 2 deal with the never-ending drama.
Posts: 6 | Location: New York | Registered: 14 October 2003
Originally posted by 2TIRED 2DEAL: [qb]Hello. this is my first time here, so please bear with me. i've been searching high and low for some guidance as much as i'd like to give. i have a 7 year old, and have practically been raising him on my own since birth. i have been in and out of court for years with the "dead beat" who claims to be dad. i can catch diarreah of the mouth talking about what he doesn't do. , i'm hoping someone might have some type of info i may look into, here's the situation. i have been receiving support (which was forceably taken) when his checks were getting garnished. well, surprise, surprise...the checks have stopped coming. MOMS, u all know how difficult it is to raise a child nowadays...well, i call his "job" and they state that he is no longer employed, so i confront him on his "job situation" and he claims how he is working. so, i ask him where (location) so that i can contact the support agency with this new info being that he WON'T...and he claims that it isn't any of my business. now, is there anything i can do in order to get this investigated? lord knows i am 2 tired 2 deal with the never-ending drama.[/qb]
AMEN SISTER IM GOING THROUGH THE SAME THING!!!![
Posts: 4 | Location: NC | Registered: 13 February 2004
shouldnt the state/child support angecies be able to track down where he is working? he has to give his employer his social for tax purposes, so the govt must be able to figure out where to get the money? or is the system not set up for that ?
It could also be that he is working under the table which would make tracking down the money next to impossible. In Calif. we fill out a form with every new hire to send to the state specifically to aid in tracking down deadbeat parents for wage garnishment even if they jump from job to job. Don't know if your state does this or not.
Posts: 4716 | Location: California | Registered: 15 January 2004
Let me know when you figure this one out. I've driven myself crazy trying to do the same with MY ex! Hang in there!
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Originally posted by 2TIRED 2DEAL: [qb]Hello. this is my first time here, so please bear with me. i've been searching high and low for some guidance as much as i'd like to give. i have a 7 year old, and have practically been raising him on my own since birth. i have been in and out of court for years with the "dead beat" who claims to be dad. i can catch diarreah of the mouth talking about what he doesn't do. well, i'm hoping someone might have some type of info i may look into, here's the situation. i have been receiving support (which was forceably taken) when his checks were getting garnished. well, surprise, surprise...the checks have stopped coming. MOMS, u all know how difficult it is to raise a child nowadays...well, i call his "job" and they state that he is no longer employed, so i confront him on his "job situation" and he claims how he is working. so, i ask him where (location) so that i can contact the support agency with this new info being that he WON'T...and he claims that it isn't any of my business. now, is there anything i can do in order to get this investigated? lord knows i am 2 tired 2 deal with the never-ending drama.[/qb]
Posts: 1 | Location: united states | Registered: 10 April 2004
Originally posted by 2TIRED 2DEAL: [qb]Hello. this is my first time here, so please bear with me. i've been searching high and low for some guidance as much as i'd like to give. i have a 7 year old, and have practically been raising him on my own since birth. i have been in and out of court for years with the "dead beat" who claims to be dad. i can catch diarreah of the mouth talking about what he doesn't do. well, i'm hoping someone might have some type of info i may look into, here's the situation. i have been receiving support (which was forceably taken) when his checks were getting garnished. well, surprise, surprise...the checks have stopped coming. MOMS, u all know how difficult it is to raise a child nowadays...well, i call his "job" and they state that he is no longer employed, so i confront him on his "job situation" and he claims how he is working. so, i ask him where (location) so that i can contact the support agency with this new info being that he WON'T...and he claims that it isn't any of my business. now, is there anything i can do in order to get this investigated? lord knows i am 2 tired 2 deal with the never-ending drama.[/qb]
I am in the same situation. I for myself made sure that I had his social. You have to be sneaky with him. He's not going to honest so you have to go about it the down and dirty way. Also pretend to get along even though inside you can't stand him. He will feel more comfortable if he thinks that you are on is side. Once you make friends and take an hour out of your life and find out what's going on with him. Be slick about it. Don't just jump on the phone and ask "Where are you working" talk about your job even if it is an imaginary one. Than make him feel like your really interested in him. Another thing always tell him you need his work number because just in case of an emergency you can get in contact. Then you can easily call the job and find out where he is working. Watch out if he is like my sperm donor he is getting paid under the table. Remember keep your enemies close. Beleive me you want him to think that your on his side, then he will feel that he can tell you anything.
Posts: 5 | Location: Los Angeles | Registered: 12 February 2004
There is a system setup called the New Hire Registry which stated above that employers have to file and send to the state. That goes for all States now. Contact your CSE and request that they do a locate and check that database. If they dont get him like that, I would believe that he is working under the table. Or self-employed. Check the laws of your state and the CSE policy and procedures which for the State of Cali, are online. Also(not sure for all), but CSE are supposed to do these things every so often like a Locate, and Flag his SS. Also he is required to notify the CSE about job changes. Not that all do. Good Luck Queti
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Originally posted by 2TIRED 2DEAL: [qb] i call his "job" and they state that he is no longer employed, so i confront him on his "job situation" and he claims how he is working. so, i ask him where (location) so that i can contact the support agency with this new info being that he WON'T...and he claims that it isn't any of my business. now, is there anything i can do in order to get this investigated? lord knows i am 2 tired 2 deal with the never-ending drama.[/qb]
Posts: 8 | Location: usa | Registered: 27 February 2004
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