Hey yall,
Just wanted to offer some words of encouragement..
I went through child support enforcement back in May of this year,some told me it would take years,I was worried..Well,In July my ex was served,his court date was in Sept..The judge told him that he needed to get a job,yes,he is a deadbeat,so,he did get a job,they started taking it out of his check every week.It was nice,while it lasted...He went back to court last wed,without a job,and the judge put him in jail,right there in the courtroom..He knew it would happen,the judge told him if he came before him without a job,he would go to jail..
So,there he sits,he owes me over $26k..
Why is this good news u ask?Well,the system DOES work,it may take a while but they are really hammering down on deadbeats..At least here in ga..

So......HOLD ON!! Dont be afraid,worried,or scared..If they are not paying,something needs to be done...They need to have some kind of responsiblity ,they helped bring the kid/kids into this world,they need to help raise them...

Just my $0.02 worth...

Ugh. I know all abou the $26k..

Jack's dad shot four deer this season, a half a dozen pheasants, and is in the process of building a fish house.

I asked the CS worker last friday if they would so a recreational lisence suspention. She says, "Oh, does he like to hunt?" Sheesh.

I hope that goes through.

Wow! $26,000?

Now THAT'S a deadbeat. Can't argue against that. Hate the thought of jail time but if you won't listen to the judge...the guy was aware.

I have a friend of mine that was dating/living w/a guy that owed nearly $35,000 in back support, and he's still walking the streets and living off of people. She had the good sense to finally kick him out of her home, but that was a little ridiculous. I know that there are honest dads out there that try to take care of their responsibilities, like you JD, but the ones this far behind really have no business having any rights, in my opinion. I have to say that I've been very lucky in the respect that Ty's father pays support regularly, even though that is all he does for my son.

Like I said, can't argue with that. I cannot even fathom getting behind like that. I would feel so bad because that money is for my child.

Question ladies:

If I fall on hard times, I can seek relief in court and can probably get it. That's not to say my support is erased or anything but reduced to acceptble ranges. And only temporarily. If the above mentioned deadbeat was to stay up front with the court, could he get legal relief?

Probably not. My husband tried to get relief when we really needed it and could not. He went to the court house 4 times to try and get child support lowered temporarly and could not get it done. The judge would not even see him. Keep in mind different states and several several years ago.
We made it through but boy was it tough for a while.

So here is my question....if you know that the Dad is a deadbeat. You know that he is already paying support and having issues paying support on 3 other children....

You know that he's disappeared from the court's radar...but was on probation so must be around somewhere..

Do you try? Do you go through all the hassle of getting the paternity and doing everything that will probably make your life worse? Do you do something that will give rights to the man, but do nothing to benefit you or your child? He hasn't wanted to be a part of his life...but I know that he will feel that if he has to pay he will feel obligated. If he hasn't wanted to participate by his own choice up to now....do I bother?? I gave him every opportunity...is a few bucks or less money after court time really a benefit?

This might be the other side of the coin but here it goes,12 years of paying child support,100 a week each for 2 kids, in arrears twice both times less than 1000 dollars, been current for the last 8 years.All arrears paid long ago.I had seen to it I had custody every friday afternoon to sunday evening at 8.Things happen,lost the job and income my payments were based on(they finally got tired of my not working sat and sun)domestic relations didn`t care,more or less it was shut up and pay the support.Iwalked for almost a year,couldn`t afford car or ins.Through all this I felt good just knowing I was doing the right thing for the kids.As they got older my kids asked me for more and more money.It got to the point where I was buying sneakers,school cloths,paid for school pic,bought all the soccer,football and wrestling equip.etc. etc.I called domestic relations to ask why some of this wasen`t being bought out of child support money.Iwas told and I quote it`s none of my business how my x spends the money it`s my business to pay it.Now that both of my children are with me Im told it could take from 30 to 60 days before they stop taking support out of my paycheck.It took them 1 pay period to start taking it out when we separated.I`m just trying to let you see that sometimes support payees forget the word child in child support.My x once told me "that`s the money I use for my internet,cellphone,and for me to go out on weekends".Somewhere along the line the phrase I have to take care of me first got misunderstood.Now that I`ve vented and shared I want to tell ya`ll I`m very greatful and thank GOD every day for 2 loving kids and the relationship we have built over the years.
bless you all
Carl

Carl, all that money can never replace your love.

I totally understand where you're coming from, read my post under the child support forum about buying cadillacs..

Whoa Carl! Can I relate. Fortunately, I've been able to stay employed most of my daughter's life.

Up here it's a bit easier if I lose my job. But the other aspects such as accountibility and purpose, ring true.

I've always thought that a child support debit card is a good idea. That was the purchaces can be tracked, and a monthly statement can be sent to the NCP.

At least an accounting of what the money is spent on.I don`t have a problem with the fact that a lot of it helps pay the household expenses but a portion should go directly to benefit the kids,a little spending money or once in a while something they don`t need but would really like to have.I know I`m gonna get flack over this but too many new boy or girl friends look foreward to that next support check.

Oh, yes. Going right to the grocery store and filling the fridge..Ahhh, the luxury.

I'm totally with you Carl.

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Originally posted by leftover:
[qb] I've always thought that a child support debit card is a good idea. That was the purchaces can be tracked, and a monthly statement can be sent to the NCP. [/qb]

What a great idea. I hear more questions coming though. And much debate but it would certainly solve the issue of accountibility.

The one thing that always bothers me when it comes to discussions on child-support and non payment is that it is always assumed the fathers are the non-payers. As strictly a percentage, there are more women who do not pay court-ordered child supprt than men, however we never hear the term dead-beat mom.

quick CS story...
Son 15, daughter 11 (1 ex-wife, 1 ex-girlfriend), tried for custody of both...denied. Anyway, paid CS on both dutifully...almost $800 per month. I tried to find out how the money was being spent...no luck, there is no need for record keeping. Now, my daughter's mother died and I have custody. I recieve death benefits for my daughter from social security until she is 18. I get a letter in the mail twice a year asking how much money is saved for her to use later, with a warning that funds not used for her welfare will result in suspension of funds.

If they can track that, why not track child support. ?