Hi everyone, I am new here. My name is a Alicia and I have a 6 mo son. I am debating whether or not I will pursue c/s. My ex fiance is very mentaly and emotionaly abusive. He constantly made me feel like I was crazy and always told me EVERYTHING was my fault. He is completely irrational and when we discuss our son, he goes from wanting to sign his rights away, to taking him from me. The thing is when I was delivering Kyan, the ex was in jail (long story) and never got to sign the birth certificate, so legally he has no rights but I know if I pursue support from him all that will change. What should I do?
Thanks
Alicia

One misconception that many people have is that child support equals vistaion or the ability to "take" a child away. It doesnt. That aside ask yourself if your really need the finacial support from him?? Something else he could go to the courts himself and petition a paternity test to get visitation. But I doubt this. Check with you courts to see what your options are. But if I were you I would start to build a file on him. Document everytime he calls, what the converstaion was about ( I don't know if you have these store where you are but we have something called the "Spy Shop" here and you can get a recorder that records all of your phone calls as soon as the phone is picked up) But keep a journal of EVERYTHING. But check out childcustody.com look up your state and find out your rights. Good luck. If you need the device let me know and I can send it.

Man I ramble. My original point was that just because he pays child support does not mean he get visistaion.

This is true, he would need to seek visitation/custody separately from support. Which would also mean paternity testing. Also agreed it would be a good idea to keep a journal of everything that takes place, however I'd be careful about recording phone calls. Recording phone conversations is generally illegal without the party you are recording being made aware that the conversation is being recorded. Just be careful is all I'm saying