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mommie2
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I've been with my boyfriend (that now is my ex) for 3 years. During that 3 years that we where in college I got pregnant and had to drop out of school for a year, while he stayed in school and finished I stayed at home to care for our child. It was a very depressing state for myself. While at home my boyfriend cheated on me and dummie me took him back. It was all downhill from there he never gave my son any money whatsoever nor did he ever come to visit him. Finally I got back into school and he started to become more active in his life still he did not pay anything for our son my parents helped me out alot. Now that he got to gradurate and I'm still struggling in school to try to finish up he is threating me to take me to court. I feel that if he is going to take me to court he needs to pay some child support I don't know how to go about doing this though. Is there anyone out their that can help me out please I'm so confused i'm only 22 years old and I don't want him to take my baby away from me. I have been my sons support system from the start.
 
Posts: 3 | Location: Maryland | Registered: 02 June 2004Reply With QuoteEdit or Delete MessageReport This Post
Chicagomom1
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If he is threatening to take you to court but hasn't done so already. I would get ahold of a lawyer and file for sole custody and child support first. Beat him to it. Start documenting everything he gives your son (gifts, etc..), when he comes to see your son or when he spends time with them. Any conversations you have (leave out emotions when writing what was said or done).. Show that he hasn't paid a dime since your son was born. Once you start the petition for custody and child support. Enroll in some basic parenting classes, get into a playgroup or mommy and me classes. This shows the judge that you are helping yourself and your son. A judge will see that you took the initiative (sp??) to better your self for your son's sake. If you can't afford a lawyer seek out legal aid in your area they can help too. Don't worry your ex will have to prove that you are very unfit mother before a judge will take your son from you.

Shannon
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Originally posted by mommie2:
[qb]I've been with my boyfriend (that now is my ex) for 3 years. During that 3 years that we where in college I got pregnant and had to drop out of school for a year, while he stayed in school and finished I stayed at home to care for our child. It was a very depressing state for myself. While at home my boyfriend cheated on me and dummie me took him back. It was all downhill from there he never gave my son any money whatsoever nor did he ever come to visit him. Finally I got back into school and he started to become more active in his life still he did not pay anything for our son my parents helped me out alot. Now that he got to gradurate and I'm still struggling in school to try to finish up he is threating me to take me to court. I feel that if he is going to take me to court he needs to pay some child support I don't know how to go about doing this though. Is there anyone out their that can help me out please I'm so confused i'm only 22 years old and I don't want him to take my baby away from me. I have been my sons support system from the start.[/qb]
 
Posts: 159 | Location: Chicago, IL | Registered: 04 May 2003Reply With QuoteEdit or Delete MessageReport This Post
CA
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Mommy2,
I completly agree with Chicagomom. Document everthing & get an attorney. It is probably an empty threat on his part, based on his previous actions. Beat him to the punch and get the papers settling everything so it is not looming over your head.
FYI ... it will be VERY hard for him to prove you unfit, unless you are doing drugs, commiting murder and so on with your child in tow. Another plus for you is that you and your child have the support of your parents. Try to get his child support set up as an income deduction order. That way it will be taken out of his paycheck and mailed to you from his employer.
Good Luck.
Carla
 
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mommie2
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I just want to say thank you very much to the two ladies that helped me with the advice I'am really really going to take a stand first before he does. Its my last year in college so I hope that I can get down with out any extra stress from him
 
Posts: 3 | Location: Maryland | Registered: 02 June 2004Reply With QuoteEdit or Delete MessageReport This Post
beemerken
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mommie2,

Just a show of support from a single father.

I don't understand why men abandon their children, but not all are like that.

Hope things turn out good for you, you will be in my prayers. Ken
 
Posts: 3 | Location: Bloomfield, NM | Registered: 13 June 2004Reply With QuoteEdit or Delete MessageReport This Post
schlmom
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I talked to a family layer because i was in a similar situation. She told me to allow him to file for sustody first because he would basically have to pay for the majority of it. I do agree with everone to document everything. Good luck! He can't take you child away, the most he can get is visitationa and partial custody.
 
Posts: 94 | Location: Riverside, CA | Registered: 15 March 2004Reply With QuoteEdit or Delete MessageReport This Post
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