Remarried and discovering husband's interest is "looking good" to my adult (college age) children. This husband has no boundaries and seems unable to process the information that marriage (new or old)functions best when adult partners communicate and agree plus putting primary importance on marriage--not "looking good" to the stepchildren.[EMAIL]null[/EMAIL]

hello, i read your post and im sorry but i didnt understand it. looking good as in physically? then there might be a little problem there. but otherwise, if you mean just in terms of forming a good impression, i'm guessing the guy is probably feeling very pressured about making this work, and making you and your kids a family. he'll probably ease up when he realises a family can work without necessarily everyone 'liking' each other... as in, sometimes, I dont like the things my mom or my brother or my partner does, but i still love them. right now, i think he feels like he is being put on trial, and it is upto you to reassure him that he is not.
good luck

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Originally posted by cktaylor:
[qb]Remarried and discovering husband's interest is "looking good" to my adult (college age) children. This husband has no boundaries and seems unable to process the information that marriage (new or old)functions best when adult partners communicate and agree plus putting primary importance on marriage--not "looking good" to the stepchildren.[EMAIL]null[/EMAIL][/qb]

I get what you're saying. Why does he feel like he has to portray the image of being an "all together" husband for you versus you two communicating and making this marriage sustain?

I don't need my boyfriend trying to impress my children, I'll be the judge of that. In the beginning and end, I'll make a decision as to this person being a good husband, father, and supporter for our relationship, albeit me and/or the children....

I've been married once and Lord knows, I don't want the second one to end, if it ever happens. Only God knows!

Pray!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Best Wishes!