I am currently attemping to get child support from a solider who is deployed Iraq. I have gone to my locate support office, but they will not help until he comes back to the states. That could be another year. I contacted His JAG officer and he said there is nothing he can do with out a court order. Now I am left with hope that this dead beat dad with send money one his own. Which he plans to use as a game to control me. Is there any one out there who knows what steps I can take to get child support from this man in Iraq.

Louisiana Mom,
I do not know what branch of the service your childs father is in but have you tried the Navy Marine corp relief? Try this route.. see what they can do for you. My ex was in the navy when we first got married and I had to go to them for several things while he was on deployment.
It may take you a while but the military does not play when it comes to child support. Keep trying!
Good Luck!
Carla

He is in the Arkansa National Guard (Army). I spoke with the officer who is over family service. He was no help at all. He was the one that told me He could do nothing with out a court order. He did not even show me enough respect not to have me on the speaker phone. He talked about soldiers get a allowance for their children and it is up to them if they send it. I guess the National guard is not like the Army.

Keep at it! If you have a court order in anyway shape or form child support can be set up as an allotment and come directly to you. I know this because My niece's father is Nat. Guard and that is how my sis receives child support. I do no know how you have to go about setting it up. Keep at them ... go with court orders in hand. Go to a chaplain or Family services in person. In person will get you so much further! It will take hours I am sure but go prepared and be persistent. Your child deserves this support! To top it off he is tax free I believe because he is technically in a war zone..... keep at it!!!
Carla

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Originally posted by CarlaA:
[qb]Keep at it! If you have a court order in anyway shape or form child support can be set up as an allotment and come directly to you. I know this because My niece's father is Nat. Guard and that is how my sis receives child support. I do no know how you have to go about setting it up. Keep at them ... go with court orders in hand. Go to a chaplain or Family services in person. In person will get you so much further! It will take hours I am sure but go prepared and be persistent. Your child deserves this support! To top it off he is tax free I believe because he is technically in a war zone..... keep at it!!!
Carla[/qb]

I know exactly what you are going through. My son is 15 months old and when he was born his father was in Iraq. If he did not willingly go to get an allotment set up for me then I would have had to struggle to. But it took a few months before it came through probably b/c his dad was b.s. ing. But before he sent it I went through a lot to try and get it done myself. The biggest issue is that unless he concents that it his child you will have to get a peternity test done before they can issue child support. You have to also send the birth certificate information to the father so he can sign it and get it notarized. Also you will have to sign him up for Deers if he is goig to be using his insurance so you will also need a power of attorney from the father which he can easily send. All in all it takes a few months to get all of the paperwork sent back and forth. Has he contacted you from over there? If so tell him to go and get an allotment set up on his own so it goes directly to your account. That is the easiest route unless you want to take him to court for a certain amount. I hope this helps. I know how you feel; angry and stuck.

It will take time but just remember that you will be able to get back child support from him.

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Originally posted by Louisiana Mom:
[qb] He is in the Arkansa National Guard (Army). I spoke with the officer who is over family service. He was no help at all. He was the one that told me He could do nothing with out a court order. He did not even show me enough respect not to have me on the speaker phone. He talked about soldiers get a allowance for their children and it is up to them if they send it. I guess the National guard is not like the Army. [/qb]

I'm military and my daughters dad is also military. And I'm sorry to say they can't do anything without a court order but what you can do is get all the paper work started and wait for him to get back. Be persistant. Once you get your order make sure you get back pay.As for goin to one of the military relief organizations if you're not his spouse the won't help you. Kepp trying all calling and finding the right people o talk to. If he has a 1st sergeant, talk to him/her.
Thant's about all I can think of right now.
I know this wasn't the most encouraging post but I hope it was informative

I too am in a similar situation. I think my son's father has dipped out on us. He is a officer in the army reserve. He was deployed to Iraq and was not here when my son was born. He was supposed to be back home in August after an extension but he has not contacted us at all. I last heard from him in July. I am working my way through college and am in desperate need of some help with my son. I don't have a court order, I have filed with my local child support enforcement agency but I realize I will need to get a paternity test done. I do not know how to contact his commanding officer and I am not really sure where his home base is. He is a contractor for the DOD and says he sometimes works out of the Pentagon. Who can possibly help me? I have his social security number but I don't have any idea as to his home base. I am tempted to say it is Ft. Eustis or Ft. Lee both in virginia. I know it is either in DC or VA. Can anyone help. Will anyone belive me sinci I don't have a court order? Any advice would be helpful.