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I joined the Army. I have a 3 yr old son. His father has been awarded SOLE custody while I'm at boot camp. What happens afterwards, can I take him out of state with me with no reprecussions? I've been found in contempt on the court order for five violations and I am unsupervised probation. I also has CPS charges against me that were unfounded. I'm afraid the father is going to try get custody and I will not be able to take him with me where I'm stationed. Help?
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Your Recruiter should have informed you on all the legal issues regarding this. But most recruiters only care about the monthly quota and could care less about the person. My advise to you is to contact your local JAG office and talk to a Paralegal about this. If they don't have the answers somebody in the office will.
~~Monica~~ "There ain't no talkin to this man. He's been tryin to tell me so. It took awhile to understand the beauty of just letting go." |
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Hi Doris,Hello everyone, I am about to join as an officer. The recruiters insist on me forfeiting parental rights. I am single. There has to be another way, like a power of attorney, where I can retain my rights. Did they have you completley forfeit your rights in court? There has to be a loop whole somewhere. |
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the army really requires you to forefit rights of you children if you are single or not with the other parent? wow, sorry i don't really have any advice but i'm suprised that the army is like that. i relize that if you're in war you can't bring your child to the front lines. in that case i can see why they would require you to find other sources of child care. but to make you basicly give your child away. crazy.
just had to speak my mind on that problem. man the forces are great and i'm glad we have our men and women out there fighing to keep us safe but to put such harsh rules upon parents cominginto the forces of any kind is terrible. smvt |
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When I joined the Navy I had joint legal custody, the airforced wanted me to give that up and do reversible custody, I said no. The Navy legal will give me a lawyer when it comes to issues of my child, however they have refferred me to lawyers in my area? I don't know how the army works, but in the Navy I know lots of people who got their children almost out of boot. I say almost because they had school and stuff. I wish you the best of luck!!!
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[thanks for the note...I realize I need legal advise...possibly the chicago JAG office...My thing is that I do not want to give up custody, period.For a single parent, the consequences could be detrimental to the child...abandonment issues, etc. I couldn't risk that, you know? Thanks for your responses
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hey uhh...what I'm fixin to say is important. So anybody thinking about the military or already in PAY CLOSE ATTENTION!!! I gave custody of my daughter to my mother when she was 3 mos. old so I could go in the navy....did what the recruiter said...and ended up not being able to go in. I have been fighting for custody ever since. Recruiters LIE!!! And then when I called the recruiter on his lies, he swore he never told me to give up custody of my daughter. I have by all accounts lost my baby girl forever. I've been fighting for years. The BEST and most IMPORTANT thing I can tell you is NEVER STOP VISITING your child. Act now and act FAST about getting your baby back. The judge told me at our last court hearing that my mother had had my daughter for so long that it didn't matter why I gave up custody, Savannah is too attached for me to have her given back and even if I did get her back I was never allowed to leave the state w/her because she had to be near my mother since a bond had been formed. The military isn't going to help you get your kid back and honestly if you don't do everything you can to get your child back now then it's going to get to the point to the point that by the time you're done fighting he's 18. My daughter is almost five now and I haven't gotten anything more than extended visitation.
*~*Meighan*~* |
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also..the lawyer I used to give up my child said that it was horrible that the miolitary required me to give up full custody...he looked into the law, read the law straight from the books and found out that indeed..ALL BRANCHES of the military require that you give up TOTAL custody. You can't do power of attorney or anything else. And the only way you can get yoru kid back after boot camp is if the person you gave custody to agrees to give it back. There are no exceptions. I trusted my mommma and I've been told that alot of people are in my situation now as a result of the custody thing. Man DON'T GIVE UP YOUR KID!! DON'T DO IT!! My life has been HELL because I did it.
*~*Meighan*~* |
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The army does not require you to forfeit your rights. If they want you to have someone take care of your child while you are away you can get a Special power of attorney called a Loco parentis, the military JAG office knows how to do this. It does have an expiration date on it and is Null and Void whenever you state. I have been on two deployments. This has saved me twice when dealing with child custody issues. Don't listen to the recruiter they just want less hassle when you join.
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Yes recruiters LIE. I agree completely. They can say they don't, but I know what I heard. I gave up my rights to my son's father. Then everything fell apart and I did not go into the military at all, but it's been almost 2-1/2 years and my son's father still has SOLE custody, with more or less an ironclad agreement that we made at that time.
Court order goes to far as to say, IF I do not get into the Military then father still retains sole custody. So yes recruiters LIE big time. It may not be a rule of the military, but recruiters tell you this, period. |
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Wow this is so hard to believe that the Military would make you give up rights to your children. I don't know if I could do that. Much respect to those who did... I am not in the Military but I would hope there is a way to get custody back...
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I was in the USAf and loved it! I got stationed at a small Nato base in Germany and a week later found out I was pregnant. The only daycare was 35 min from my house,the people I worked with were not friendly or helpful and i really needed support. I didn't have a house or car and no one helped me. I decided to get out. And now i miss it soo much. I cannot get back in becuase I am a single parent. I do know I would have to give up full custody but would NEVER do it. i don't agree with the military on this and it really makes me sad it is this way;0( If there is someone to write to or address this issue too, anyone?? let me know. I REALLY want to try to make a differnece on this, as we all should!
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I was in the USAf and loved it! I got stationed at a small Nato base in Germany and a week later found out I was pregnant. The only daycare was 35 min from my house,the people I worked with were not friendly or helpful and i really needed support. I didn't have a house or car and no one helped me. I decided to get out. And now i miss it soo much. I cannot get back in becuase I am a single parent. I do know I would have to give up full custody but would NEVER do it. i don't agree with the military on this and it really makes me sad it is this way;0( If there is someone to write to or address this issue too, anyone?? let me know. I REALLY want to try to make a differnece on this, as we all should!
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