I am a 36 year old mother of 2-boys. They are wonderful and a handful at the same time.

I am not yet divorced but in the middle of it. He wants to reconcile but after 12 years of mental abuse and his cheating and raucus behavior... well vfr example last year on my birthday he grouped three women, was accused by one of them, was thrown out and after I defended him I had to stand there and watch what really happened unfold on the security tapes.. anyway basically I have no desire to reconcile.

I am a christian woman but also have needs and desires that make me weak. I have been dating a wonderful man and to make a long story short, even with the use of protection I became pregnant.

Here I am not yet divorced, mother of two with a baby from someone I hardly know. I am a strong woman, run my own business, etc. etc. but never in my life have I been so afraid and alone as I do right now. Any kind words of advice or support?

So much of the beginning of your post reminded me of me. I was pretty close to identical until I saw your part about being pregnant. I am not sure exactly what to tell you to do.

I will however send good thoughts and prayers your way that things will work out in the best possible way for you.

Hi CrazyK, and welcome to the forum. We are full of wonderful people and support. I know things must be scary for you right now and the best thing I can suggest is prayer. You mentioned you are a christian then turn to the one who is always there and will carry you when needed. He will show you the path.
You also stated that you used protection well than I would say this child is meant to be for one reason or another. Who knows what greatness will come.
Keep your chin up and keep taking care of you and the boys. Keep your faith and it will all unfold when need be.
In the mean time just jump right in here the friends are fine.
God bless and lots of prayers.

Hi CrazyK, and welcome! I hope you find lots of comfort here. One piece of advice I have, is remember how much joy a baby will bring into your life. Things will work out. They might be tough right now, they might be tough for a lil while, but like you said, you are a strong woman and you CAN do it! I hope you stick around.
I'm here if you want to talk.

Amy

Welcome crazyk!

Frist off dont reconcile w/him and I think you have no desire to do so anyways. As for the pregnancy thing a hard one. The baby will bring joy and it sounds like if you had to you would be able to raise this baby on your own.

I'm sorta in the same prenancy situtation. I have any 8yr for another realtionship and became pregnate w/another man's baby back in March. We had know each other for 8months. I decied to keep the baby and to make along story short I am doing it on my own. I'm pretty much ok w/it. It gets tuff at times but I'l survive like i'm sure you will too.

It's not that your weak..I don't consider myself weak b/c I got pregnate. I was on birth control and it was not suppose to happen and it did. Things happen for a reason you just may not see it right off.

That's pretty much all the advice I can give you for now. I hope things work out.

SPIRIT

Hi CrazyK, the only thing I can say is to put your concerns and life to the one above... a baby is a blessing and you have been blessed. You have sought out the right support board and we are here to help you as much as we can through this. Have faith girlie.