Hi All,
I feel bad posting a venting post already. I've only been part of this board for a short time. I'm assuming a lot of you are feeling or have felt the way I'm feeling. I'm completely down & out about my separation. It has been a few months, but some days it feels like it just happened. During the week, I am busy with friends, my family, Ashley, ect. When the weekends or holidays come, I feel like I am inviting myself to other people functions. All of my friends & my sister are very supportive, but when the weekend comes they are all preoccupied with their husbands & family. I totally understand that their husbands & family are a priority, I just get down & out b/c I'm lonely. I hope someone out there understands what I'm saying. I'm sorry to post such a neagtive post. I have a cold & I guess I'm just feeling sorry for myself this weekend. My ex is out partying tonight & that's bugging me too! I wish getting over a heartbreak & moving on was easier!! Thanks again for letting me vent!

Don't feel bad,....we all need to vent. It's good, I know it helps me to feel better. I'm sure if you look through the past posts, you'll see I'm a venter. lol
I know how you feel, holidays make me sad as well. However for me, it has gotten better over time. I still cry at things, but not nearly as much. I remember last year the night before Mother's Day, Father's Day, (every holiday) I cried and just felt so sad and alone.
Also, it does take time to get over a heartbreak. It seems silly now, but I used to cry whenever I drove through the town where my ex and I met. I have to drive through it now to get to other things on a regular basis, but I don't cry. I do understand, as I am sure many other parents on here do. Holidays are hard and depressing for a lot of us. For example, tonight I got a call from my brother who was drunk and high. He told me over and over that he loved me, and how he was sorry that he was a bad father to his two kids and just sobbed. I have seen my brother cry once maybe twice. So know you're not the only one out there feeling down. Hope you feel better!

Amy

AGsmom, I just wanted to make you feel better but I'm having a hard time thinking of anything to say. I definately understand feeling lonely. I end up spending holiday's with my husband's (ex next month) family. I really like them alot and they adore my sons but... you can imagine ( he was pretty abusive but manages to act like nothing ever happened. Creepy)We never stay long. But it makes me happy to get home.

Oh, boy, do I understand!
I've only been separated for a few months, and this is the first time my daughter's gone to her father's (halfway across the country). I thought I was ok... but I'm really not. I called him this morning to talk to her, found out that he completely changed what I THOUGHT the plan was, and she's at my mother's. She's having a wonderful time with grandma, but all I could think is that he doesn't even want to spend Easter morning with her, and I don't get to.
I invited myself to a friend's a few hours away for the weekend; she and her husband have been wonderful (helps that their families aren't in te area, so their friends ARE their family for the holidays), but I want my kid, and I want my life back.

Hang in there; we'll both be ok eventually, I still believe that.

Not to rain on a parade here, buuut... I've been single for a year and a half and I am STILL very down and out on each and every holiday. Now, I may be that way beacuse I don't have ANY family near me. But, I am moving back to my hometown to be close to my family. It will get better in general, but I always expect the holidays to STINK. I was actually about to post a topic about it, but now I don't hafta!! So, thanks for letting me vent here. I HATE being single on holidays. My mom asked me the other day, "have you tried e-harmony.com??" Thanks, mom. I really needed THAT. I think for me, I just miss having someone that I can just be next to. I miss companionship. But I know that I'll find it one day, and that's what gets me through. So.... when you're down and out, just do what I do: ask yourself this: "Would I rather be alone today or with that (insert your preferred description for the $%&!@*& ex here)?"

Should help you feel a little better.

Hi! I ahve been single and lonely for about 5 years. I have 3 children ages 19, 15 and 13. The holidays have always been the worst for me. I am the only twice divorce person in my family. My other siblings are all happily married. I always feel like the third wheel.
It's hard going to family get togethers with me being the only person without a spouse. I had Easter over my hime today. My sister and her family came down from NJ. Dinner went well and I was starting to enjoy myself. They decided to go out after dinner as couples and I get left home.
I never get use to this, I always feel like a failure. How is it that I am the one who is by myself. What's wrong with me that I was not able to have a happy marriage of my own? Okay I'm new to this and I sound like a cry baby. Please can someone give me some words of wisdom.

Thanks for your post, Lisa. Sorry you couldn't be with you daughter this holiday. I'm not looking forward to missing holidays with her. It makes me so sad! I know we will both be ok. Just wish all of this was easier.

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Originally posted by Lisa R:
[qb] Oh, boy, do I understand!
I've only been separated for a few months, and this is the first time my daughter's gone to her father's (halfway across the country). I thought I was ok... but I'm really not. I called him this morning to talk to her, found out that he completely changed what I THOUGHT the plan was, and she's at my mother's. She's having a wonderful time with grandma, but all I could think is that he doesn't even want to spend Easter morning with her, and I don't get to.
I invited myself to a friend's a few hours away for the weekend; she and her husband have been wonderful (helps that their families aren't in te area, so their friends ARE their family for the holidays), but I want my kid, and I want my life back.

Hang in there; we'll both be ok eventually, I still believe that. [/qb]

Hi- All I can offer you is a hug. ((( ))) I feel the same way you do. Things will get better for us.

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Originally posted by teen mom of three:
[qb] Hi! I ahve been single and lonely for about 5 years. I have 3 children ages 19, 15 and 13. The holidays have always been the worst for me. I am the only twice divorce person in my family. My other siblings are all happily married. I always feel like the third wheel.
It's hard going to family get togethers with me being the only person without a spouse. I had Easter over my hime today. My sister and her family came down from NJ. Dinner went well and I was starting to enjoy myself. They decided to go out after dinner as couples and I get left home.
I never get use to this, I always feel like a failure. How is it that I am the one who is by myself. What's wrong with me that I was not able to have a happy marriage of my own? Okay I'm new to this and I sound like a cry baby. Please can someone give me some words of wisdom. [/qb]

I certainly do not feel as if I have any wisdom. Some days I wonder why I am alone (although with 2 boys I guess I'm never really alone. I can't even seem to pee alone ) and others I am desperately grateful I got out.

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Originally posted by teen mom of three:
[qb] Hi! I ahve been single and lonely for about 5 years. I have 3 children ages 19, 15 and 13. The holidays have always been the worst for me. I am the only twice divorce person in my family. My other siblings are all happily married. I always feel like the third wheel.
It's hard going to family get togethers with me being the only person without a spouse. I had Easter over my hime today. My sister and her family came down from NJ. Dinner went well and I was starting to enjoy myself. They decided to go out after dinner as couples and I get left home.
I never get use to this, I always feel like a failure. How is it that I am the one who is by myself. What's wrong with me that I was not able to have a happy marriage of my own? Okay I'm new to this and I sound like a cry baby. Please can someone give me some words of wisdom. [/qb]

no, can't give you any words of wisdom teen mom of three .
But a BIG :welcome: !!

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