My ex has just recently moved back into my state and he has been out of his childrens life for a couple of years. He was very abusive to me and that ended our 15+ year marriage. Since then hes been in and out of relationships and jail for spouse abuse. He says hes changed and has already has my daughter not wanting to see him. My son on the other hand wants too, but Im afraid he will manipulate him into wanting to go live with him and he is not a good role model. Hes now remarried and has another child. But I'm afraid he may still be abusive to his new wife, not their child. But Im not positive. Every relationship he has had with a women ended up in abuse. Do I let my son visit? Or should I trust my instincts?

Your note has been here awhile and I don't post very often, but I feel the need to respond here -- trust your instincts!

You don't say whether your son has any sort of visitation with his father, but I'm assuming he doesn't right now and wants to. Right?

Because of your ex's record of abuse, could you get supervised visitation with your son? That way he could see his dad but he'd be protected from manipulation and abuse. How old is your son? Is he old enough to understand the history between your ex and you?

Great picture Jwriter!

Thanks. No idea why it's so big!