We have been sep 4yrs. shortly after first child born. He said he'd go to counsel. He lied. He says if we just got under the same roof, things would be easier, he'd have more time, blah, blah.... I think it would just make it easier for him to try to control me! How can he even think about moving in, when we still haven't resolved or found what the problems are? He doesn't admit any wrong. It's always my fault. I kicked him out. (was my apt. before he moved in w/me)I think he's not going to counsel. b/c he'd have to change or doesn't want to hear what he knows he's not doing and should be doing!! Oh, someone help me out! He's so selfish. I suffer dibilitating headaches, it doesn't bother his day, so he just goes on his way, not worrying about who I can get to watch kids, or how bad it hurts me, or how ill I could get! He makes me want to throw up! How can he go on thru his day and not be concerned enough to do something to help me? they are his kids too! We have a 4yr old and an OOPSY, 10 mos old. Plus, he doesn't stop to think about how I took in his other two boys @ ages 9 and 10, when we were together! I cared more for then than their real mom or my hubby!!! We can't talk about our problems and he is so mean and self centered! Our kids are just a tax write off for him!!! He seldom helps! No wonder he's so over weight! (sorry, don't mean to offend anyone.) I didn't mind him being over weigh in the beginning, but I know alot of our problems stem from his weight and attitude! He lives alone w/his two boys from prev. marriage. The boys tell me their dad doesn't do any thing and they do everything around the house!! I'm just so miserable. I made a bad choice to marry him then have kids too. Now they have to suffer w/me! I'm wanting to get a divorce, money is a problem, plus I worry about him taking the little ones to his house! He don't watch them, the boys do, when I did let him take them for a day. They came home dirty and 4yr old was gagging from dog hair in his mouth!!!! Socks had black dog hairs all over them! He didn't even feed him lunch at one time!!! I want to get supervised visits for him and our kids! any advice? I need it so badly. He will try to use my disability against me. He knows I have so much documentation on him. Plus, when he was at work, his two boys were on top of the roof of his house!!! Alone!!! They were alittle older, but they are very immature and act 5yrs younger than they are! I was told by one of the boys, as I was at the store, my hubby and all kids were here, hubby went thru my trash and desk!!!! Someone help me!!! I could write so much more! This divorce is going to be nasty, he will play dirty! Thanks for reading. Please reply.

Tell him to take a hike. Then tell him to have his counselor call you so you can get an update on the progress he is making.

Your kids will do just fine without him, my 3 youngest would like to do without their mom but for now they have to live with her.

I don't know the law or the court customs of your state but keep good documents on how he is with his other kids and how he treats the younger one. During the divorce there should be a study to determine who is the better parent and how much and what kind of time the other should spend with the kids.

Do Not Let Him Back In.

Oh sweetie, Ther comes a time when you just hve to buck up and get out it. I know it's hard and scarey. I was a healthy nurse that became disabled. The next thing i knew i was all kinds of fat lazy B's. I KNEW THE NIGHT I HAD TO SLEEP WITH MY THEN 4YR OLD AND A CHAIR AT THE DOOR FOR SAFETY. IT WAS TIME TO GO. TRUST ME PRAYER WILL DRY THEM TEARS AND EASE THOSE FEARS, GOD WILL MAKE A WAY OUT.TAKE IT WHILE YOU CAN. I PROMISE MY DAUGHTER EVERYNIGHT I WON'T LET US GET HURT EVER AGAIN LIKE THAT. YOU CAN DO THE SAME. IF YOU EVER NEED ME I'M RIGHT HERE..

just file for divorce, he'll get the clue