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Anger is not bad feeling,it has got some positive intention,it is there to protect us.Whenever u get angry,be in touch with that part of ur mind which is generating Anger & convey thanks to that part.Say to that part "I know you have some positve intension,u b there in me.i know u r helping me in some unknown way. so thank u for being there". Anger is not sin, it has positive intension to prtect us. We cant Supress it.Accepting the feeling as it is reduces the intensity & we r little bit free.Support Anger then it will generate options for u automatically. u can Refer any book on Gestalt Psychology or Neuro linguistic Programing. u can find the material in search on net also I know one book on rational emotive therapy "Anger how to live with & without it" by Dr. Albert Ellis. His website www.rebt.org |
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| Posts: 2 | Location: India | Registered: 27 May 2005 |  |
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Learning to Surf The Board
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quote: hi all, i a, new here, and can't figure out how to post a topic, hope this works!! my husband of ten years and i have recently seperated, 5 weeks ago. it was a very sudden and unexpected seperation, he just packed up one day while i was at work and moved to california. called me a week later and said he didn't want to be with me anymore...anyways...this is my dilemma..we have 2 children, ages 2 and 5, both girls. i know the 2 year old is just fine, but i am concerned about the 5 year old. her father told her he was going to be in california working for a little while to make money. well, 5 weeks has gone by now, he calls very little to talk to her, maybe...MAYBE...once a week, and hasn't seen her at all. i just have been keeping with the story that he is working in california, thinking that the more time passes, she will ask less and less. well, as it turns out, the more time passes, she is starting to ask about him more and more...statements like daddy has been gone for a long time, when is daddy coming home...we can't have family day, daddy is not here...it's all the time now. i would like some advice on how to tell her what is going on and WHAT do i tell her...i just have no idea. i don't want her to blame herself, i don't want her to blame me and resent me..i don't know what to do!! i just hate him for putting her through this, but that us another topic all in itself...any suggestions out there?? i'm lost on this one!!
My opinion is tell her the truth. You will be there for her and never let her feel unloved. quote: It's sad that we as women end up with the sleepless nights,and broken hearts while the father of our children are getting a full nights rest and living life to the fullest!
Um, I kind of take exception with this statement. I am a single father of three wonderfull kids that my Ex decided she did not want to be part of our lives any longer. I have many sleepless nights while she is out partying with her new 20 something boyfriend. |
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| Posts: 19 | Location: Paris, Ontario, Canada | Registered: 16 May 2005 | |
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