My 17 year old daughter and I have to leave the house. My husband of 15 years is an alcoholic and is increasingly verbally abusive and physically intimidating to both of us. My daughter's father is dead. My 13 year old son wants to stay in the home with his dad. I would like him to have what he seems to want so badly but I am afraid. Without my daughter and I there, I fear that his father will turn all that anger on him. I have managed to find a place to live very close to the house, so my son can see my whenever he wants and I can be close in the event something were to happen. Also, my husband has never been a provider, so I will have to pay child support. Can anyone tell my if I would be allowed to pay the mortgage on the house instead of giving him a check. I am concerned that he would let the house go on foreclosure and move farther away to make it difficult for me to see my son. He was actually happy to be laid off from work because he thought the court would order me to pay him more in child support. In the last three years he has only worked about 12 months. The rest of the time he has been "self-employed", which apparently means you get to sit on the couch and wait for someone to offer you work while you drink.

I would certainly talk to a lawyer about that. I think it would depend on how the child support was ordered. My child support is ordered to be paid through the court system, so I get a check written out to me. I don't know if you can do it another way. Good luck with your son.